It has been nearly seven months since I became newly single. This time period is starting to get long to some people. However, it is no one’s business whether or not I am single. Everyone I know is making up stupid excuses for me to why I stay single. No, I am not hung up on that guy, I just haven’t met someone who made me feel the same way. I promise you, my ex is out of the picture, literally doesn’t even want to speak to me. That guy I went on that date with just wasn’t my type. There is no reason except for the fact that I am in love with myself and striving to be better.

I am not the girl who is looking to sleep around or hook-up with every guy at every party. In fact, I am the total opposite. I want to wait for the right guy again, I want to not worry about the chase for a little bit, despite what many of my peers may believe. Sure, I have had my many chances with some guys and they didn’t exactly work out, but that doesn’t mean I regret any of them. I am simply living by the rule that everything happens for a reason.

For now, I am very career driven. I have started in a new major, and I have been focused beyond belief in it. I am striving toward being a better student and an even better journalist in the future. I don’t need to be focused on the boys and who thinks I am a better catch. I am wanting to just work towards my goals in life. In five years, none of these boys will mean much to me any ways, so why let them get in the way now?

I am obviously not going to shy away at anyone I see is going to make my life even better than it already is. I am happy right now. Just like coming out of a relationship was a life adjustment, so is jumping back into one. I have become adjusted to life without a partner, that life with one would be a huge change. I don’t want to change my life for just anyone. The next person to take the role as my boyfriend is going to have to be pretty special. They will need to be able to handle the fact that I am in a very selfish part of my life, I have to look out for my future. I am not going to date someone who isn’t looking for a future, that is a waste of my time. Until this happens, I am riding solo.

So there you have it, I am single for myself these days. At one point I was looking for someone to fill a void in my life, but I learned that no one was capable of that job when I needed it. Everyone just needs to stop making speculations on why I am still single, believe me, it is a personal choice that I have stayed single. I don’t want just anyone in my life who isn’t going to better it. One day I will change my mind, but until then, I will enjoy being the single, independent woman I am.