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I'm Not Asking For Prince Charming, My Relationship Standards Are Pretty Simple

Read about my personal struggles with wanting to start a relationship during my time at ISU.

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I'm Not Asking For Prince Charming, My Relationship Standards Are Pretty Simple
Victoria Stancy

Ever since I was in grammar school, I dreamt of the day that I would have that special guy in my life who knew practically everything about me, appreciated me for who I am, loved me unconditionally and knows how to always make me have a good laugh. Being in college has definitely knocked that expectation out of my head because of the roadblocks that guys throw our way when it comes to wanting to commit.

One of the biggest excuses I have been told is that I don't have time for a relationship, which from my personal experience is not true. I had three jobs at one point during my freshmen year of college, completed all of my assignments, had a social life and still technically had time for a relationship to fit in there.

I've given up on the idea that Prince Charming is bound to come into my life, but my list of expectations are very simple. Be there for me just like how I will be there for you. Make some time occasionally for us to be able to hang out one-on-one so that we don't lose touch with our relationship. Lastly, show me that you care in any way, shape or form that reminds me that I never have to question if you still think about me. I'm not expecting my future boyfriend to send me flowers once a week, buy me fancy dinners or have to shower me with gifts. The biggest "gift" I could ever want is their time. I don't need to be taken to a white tablecloth restaurant, need you to drive me everywhere we go or need you to make time for me every day of your life. As long as there is communication between the both of us that never makes me feel as if you have lost interest in our relationship then you'll make me the happiest girl in the world.

My idea of a perfect date consists of either of these activities: hanging out and listening to music, watching a movie, walks on campus, doing homework at the library, going to the gym to workout or just driving around town! Sometimes I feel like guys think that we expect to be taken on these fancy dates that involve us having to get dressed up or takes up a lot of time. In reality, as long as we are spending time with you, that's considered a date no matter how short it may seem or doesn't require that much effort to have it happen! In high school, it was considered a date if we just walked around our town mall and didn't even end up buying anything because it was two people spending time together regardless of what was being bought or had going on around them.

Being in a relationship is still a stage of my life that I have yet to experience but I know that when it does happen, I will put my best foot forward to show my significant other that he means a lot to me, I would do anything for him and that he can talk to me about anything. A lot of people don't really understand how important communication is in a relationship because we cannot expect our boyfriend/girlfriend to be able to read our minds if we are feeling a certain way.

College is supposed to be the best time of our lives, so don't waste your time trying to impress someone that doesn't give you the time of day or doesn't care about your life beneath the surface of what is seen by the naked eye. You want a person that is going to be there for you regardless of their hectic schedule, will show you that you are special and worth their time.

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