Divorces seem to be a thing happening far more these days or even break ups, many relationships the MAIN reason is because it gets boring after awhile. Sometimes it’s because you rush into things instead of trying to learn about one another. Sometimes it is even because nobody is willing to communicate. Truth is it doesn’t have to get boring. YOU SHOULD NEVER LET IT GET BORING. No relationship is perfect nor is anyone perfect. I do not believe in the “ 50/50” concept I believe you individually should put in a 100 each. Some days one of you may have to put in 80% while the other puts in 20% and that’s okay. However, what is not okay is to give up on another nobody deserves to be gave up on.
Being with someone means you need to be able to lift your partner higher. Relationships get boring because you aren’t learning new things with each other. You aren’t building with each other. Go to the local laser tag place or go on a special night out of town. Do things to keep the connection alive. Your partner should be lifting you up to be the best version of yourself. Encourage each other to do better. Support each other’s dreams. The more you engage on a mental connection the more you keep a raw connection. Nas once said “Love is more about chemistry than biology”. Have you ever seen a chemical reaction in Chemistry class? That’s how a relationship should be. Putting together your minds and lighting up a room with them. Teach your partner new things because that’s exciting. Don’t be the person who regrets letting that relationship get boring because once it gets boring they start looking for excitement elsewhere. You lose each other once you let the relationship get boring.
Communication is key and often times people do not know how to communicate. People also assume that just because you are communicating that you need to agree with one another. Truth is you are not always going to agree with one another and that is okay. However, do not ignore the issue or try to fight the issue. Learn when to agree to disagree because you do not want to spend everyday fighting. I learned that sometimes what is a small issue to them can be a big issue to you, but don’t dwell on it. For example, I do not like my partner liking other females pictures not for insecurity issues, but for the simple fact females like to throw that attention in your face to be spiteful or petty. However, just because I don’t like it and will complain when I see it doesn’t mean I would throw the relationship away or try to fight him everyday about it. Because it all comes down to trust.
You trust your partner to sleep with them, you can learn to trust them with your heart as well. We have all been betrayed by someone we love, but truthfully it may happen again. There is nothing you can do to prevent that. However, you always have to have faith to trust in love. You do not want to be 80 years old and not having someone by your side. I love seeing elderly couples who have been married forever. We are in a generation now where people would rather say “fuck love” because they are scared. Scared of the unknown scared of what can happen scared of being hurt, but don’t let that stop you. Truth is in any healthy relationship you will still get hurt at some point. However, in any long lasting relationship the key is forgiveness. Nobody said love was easy, but it’s worth it and always will be.
