I've dated a few different kinds of guys, all of which have made me realize what I can and can’t stand in a relationship. There are a few things that I absolutely will not tolerate, because I feel disrespected or disgusted. Hopefully, this guide will help both men and women, because both parties can be responsible for these faults.
I have five main deal-breakers, all equal in distaste, and each is likely to result in a break up. Deal-breakers are different for everyone; little pet peeves such as your significant other constantly biting their nails or chewing with their mouth open can pass as a deal-breaker for some people. For me, it takes a lot more than that.
1. Cheating.
Cheating is a very bad and very big deal in every relationship. My belief is that if a person cheats once, he or she will cheat again. It’s usually best to end the relationship, because there is no excuse for making a mistake as big as that. I know it’s hard to let go of someone you care about, even if they hurt you, but sometimes it just has to be done.
2. Lying.
Lying makes relationships incredibly unstable, and creates a very unhealthy atmosphere as well. Honesty is the best policy, people. However, to any guys reading this, when she asks you, “Does this make me look fat,” the answer will always be no!
3. Lack Of Support.
My goals and aspirations are some of my top priorities. If my significant other doesn’t stand behind me or have faith in me, it's a sign of disrespect, and respect is vital in a relationship. I want the person that I’m in a relationship with to support me no matter what, and receive the same in turn.
4. Belittling or making of fun your partner.
There is nothing funny about your partner trying to make you feel or look stupid, whether you’re alone or in public. Intelligence and humor is valued in a relationship, so you should encourage the growth of each of those aspects, not drag them down with cruelty and disrespect.
5. Flirting with others.
Whether your relationship is serious or casual, flirting with another individual in front of someone you have associated with romantically or intimately is a poor choice to make. Jealously always leads to both parties being upset, and causes a lot of distress and sometimes distrust in the relationship.
If you can avoid any of these faults, you’re still not in a perfect relationship, but don’t panic- no relationship is perfect. Your deal-breakers should be whatever makes you feel badly about yourself or your relationship, because that’s the opposite of how you should feel in a happy one. In the end, your significant other should either make you want to be a better person, or help you believe you’re already amazing the way that you are. I’ve been fortunate enough to find someone who does, and hope that everyone else can, too.
