I just got engaged a few days ago, and I've had several mixed responses. Lucky for me, I'm not someone who often cares what other people think. If I see what I want, I go for it, and it took time for me to work up to that. I think that's what college is set in place for you to do. You find yourself and your own personal confidence. I've always heard "you're too young" for this and that, and that is like, the worst phrase in human history. You're never too young to make your own decisions. It may not always have the best outcome, but that's how you learn.
People assume that because I'm engaged, I am immediately going to settle down, have a few kids, and that my life, as I know it, is over. Well, I think that is just bologna. I am young, and I have found the person I want to be with forever. How amazing is that?! Here's a list that will show you just how amazing it is.
1. No more awkward dates! Hallelujah! I'm not particularly shy, but dates are just awkward. It's totally normal for them to be that way, but that doesn't mean I like it. I talk a lot but never seem to have anything to say on dates, so something weird usually comes out.
2. No more suffering through weird pick-up lines at the bar. Honestly, guys, get some new material.
3. We get to be together for all of the big milestones! He will be there when I finally walk across that stage for graduation, I will be there as he slowly climbs up the ladder.
4. We get to experience the world together, and we don't even have to wait until the kids are gone or until we retire. We are young enough now that we can wait to have children, and we can go on all types of adventures together before we finally decide to "settle down."
5. Whatever happens, happens. We have our whole lives ahead of us. We don't have to rush into anything. We don't have to get married tomorrow, we don't have to start trying to have children on the honeymoon. We have time.
6. We get to grow together. We are constantly changing, in that we learn new things about each other every single day. It keeps our lives interesting.
7. To have and to hold, and to annoy for the rest of your life. Ahh, it's so nice to be able to be yourself, no matter how weird and quirky you are, because clearly, he loves it.
8. No longer having the feeling that you're going to be alone forever. I don't know how many times my friends and I planned our whole lives together because guys are dumb, and we thought for sure we would never find the one.
9. We always have a DD. I'm in college. Honestly, who has like, $12 extra to pay for an Uber? I mean, yeah, you may have friends that volunteer to do so, but your S.O. won't randomly start taking shots to try and get a date (or whatever) with that rando at the bar.
10. We always know that someone has our back. Until you meet the right one, relationships and guys can be really shady. This world we live in today makes relationships so complicated. I swear, the "talking" phase ruins lives. Now that I am engaged, I no longer have to worry about playing all of those games. "We're only dating when we are together, otherwise we can see whoever we want." ...What? How does that even make sense?
11. Last but not least, being married young means we weren't pressured in to doing so. I'm only 22 years old, so my mom isn't always trying to randomly set me up with some co-worker's cousin's brother's son in hopes that I'll fall in love and pop out a few grandkids for her to spoil. We're getting married because we want to, because we love each other, and because life together is so much easier and lovely than life apart.
