First off, let me get something straight: I'm happy for you if you're comfortable in your own skin. That's great — we all need that. But the problem comes when you aren't being realistic. Because, in all likelihood, the reasons why you're lonely and no girls/guys are talking to you are completely within your control. I'm here to make you pretty, but you need to be honest with yourself for that to happen.
1. You don't talk to people.
If you've been living in bed for the past six weeks, you'll be even less desirable than you currently are. Go out and do something. You don't need to be trying to seduce people wherever you go, but at least figure out how to talk to people without being creepy or weird. Strike up a conversation with a random person at least once a day, and your natural charisma will steadily develop. The biggest thing you can do for yourself is to get out of your comfort zone — no excuses.
2. Your clothes don't fit right.
Billie Eilish is pretty much the only person that's exempt from this rule, and for good reason: she's Billie Eilish. The difference between you and her is that she's successful. However, just because you have a net income of -$300 a month and your last meal consisted of Easy Mac and a granola bar doesn't mean you have to look pathetic. For example: an ill-fitting suit is the difference between this and this. Even if you wear a t-shirt and sweatpants every day, just make sure you don't look like you're dressed in garbage bags, or else people will talk to you less than they already do.
3. Your posture sucks.
Not only does poor posture create a whole slew of problems with your back, it (more importantly) makes you look small, insecure, and unattractive. Even if you are indeed insecure, there's no reason you have to look like it. Here's a helpful tip: imagine that your nipples are the headlights of your car, and you just turned on the high beams. Roll those shoulders back, lift up your chin, and go get 'em tiger.
4. You don't put effort into how you look.
I understand if you look like trash at your Friday 8 a.m. class because you sent it a little too hard at the bars the night before, but if you look like this at 2 p.m. on a Wednesday, you need to get your act together. Particularly for the guys: ditch the 2-in-1 shampoo, take a shower, and shave. No one wants to see your pube 'stache.
5. You take yourself too seriously.
Although subtle at times, nothing screams "I'm wildly insecure about what people will think of me" more than someone who takes themselves too seriously. Take the dad bod, for example. Someone with a dad bod is willing to do silly, fun things because they're willing to sacrifice looking cool for the sake of happiness. If you can make fun of yourself, you're one step closer to being confident and attractive.
6. You're not interesting.
If you say that one of your hobbies is "hanging out with friends," you're boring to talk to. Everyone likes hanging out with their friends. I'd be worried if you didn't. Liven up the standard "getting to know you" conversations by being genuinely passionate about something. Talk about why your favorite music is your favorite. If you have an interesting hobby, talk about that. If you don't have any legitimate hobbies, then find one. If you don't, then no matter how attractive you are, I'll have more fun looking at you than talking to you.
7. Confidence is key.
A confident person is able to tolerate uncertainty. They don't care that they don't know what everyone thinks of them. To a confident person, it simply doesn't matter. Go out, live life, have fun, and your confidence should come in one way or another.
In a nutshell: care about how you look (but not too much), be interesting, be healthy, and most importantly, be confident. The fact that you clicked on this headline suggests that you're struggling out there with all those beautiful people all around you. Just trust yourself and remember that you can be one of them too.
