Throughout my 20 years of life, I have had a lot of different kinds of friends. I've had a true best friend who I met in church and has been "my person" for almost eight years now. I have had friends that don't make it with me past a semester and I've had strictly "in class" friendships. I've had male friends and female friends, and I would say I've learned a lot. Every friendship is different, because not one person is exactly the same. One thing I've learned is that each friendship brings something new and significant to the table, for a reason, a season or a lifetime.
A Reason
Some friends come in to your life to teach you a lesson, or be there through a situation that is completely new to you. These friends help you grow into the person you're supposed to be-- the person that you were meant to become.These friendships are strong because you build each other up in ways no one else could.
When I was younger, my mother passed away. I had a friend in high school whose mother was battling with cancer. When she passed, I could be there for my friend in a way she didn't have from others in her life. I was the "reason-friend;" however, I have also have had reason-friends. I had very low self esteem my middle and early high-school years (who didn't?) and I loved to sing. My friend would call me and listen to me sing, and he always said, "That was incredible." That meant so much to me then, more than I think he ever knew.
This friend was in my life for a reason.
A Season
Some friends fall into your life for just a little while. These are the friends that become your BFF's, take you to late-night doughnut runs and grab coffee with you before class. These friends are important to you for just a little while. Almost all of my best friends have been seasonal friends. I would tell them everything, and they were my loyal confidants.
After awhile, these friendships would fade out for no particular reason. No hard feelings--we just weren't friends anymore.These friendships are important ones, because they mold who you are; however, nothing lasts forever.
A Lifetime
It is said that if a friendship lasts seven years, it will last a lifetime. These are the friends you refer to as "your person." These are the friendships that fill your heart with a sweet, honey feeling. The ones where you can go a year without talking, and when you get together, it's like nothing has changed.These are the maid-of-honors, best men and godparents. These people have touched your heart in a way you can't explain, and you feel so #blessed to have them in your life.
I have had two friends in my life that have been my people for the past seven (almost eight) years. They even happen to be siblings, and I met them at church.I know they'll always have my back, and I'll always have theirs-- for a lifetime.
Friendships are complicated, and it's no secret they get even more messy as you get older. Every friendship is different, but can mean so much to one person. Friends come and go, for a reason, a season and a lifetime.
