What It's Really Like To Have A Bad Roommate
Start writing a post
Student Life

What It's Really Like To Have A Bad Roommate

Being roommates doesn't always equal being best friends.

370
What It's Really Like To Have A Bad Roommate
funnyordie

A lot of times when people hear that you have a roommate, they think, "Oh! You two must be best friends then!" But...it doesn't always work that way. Just because you live together, doesn't mean you get along. Sometimes, you just cohabitate. It's all about the boundaries.

Here's what it's REALLY like to have a bad roommate.

Well...it's lonely. Sometimes, you start out on the wrong foot. Although if you're like me, you were friends first. And I really believe that that's even more difficult. Unfortunately both of my roommates have started in friendships and ended in turmoil.

Sometimes I miss them, but I really just miss the person that I thought they were. You know the saying "everything happens for a reason"? That's what I try to remember in those lonely times. I try to assure myself that the friendship that ended much quicker than I had ever thought, really was a blessing in disguise.

Maybe they would have flaw in the future, a heart break, or in this case, maybe they're just a dodged bullet. Either way, having a roommate that you're not friends with, no matter what the reason...well...it sucks.

It's a lot of hurt feelings. In the heat of an argument, sometimes you say exactly what you shouldn't. I'm pretty honest (too honest) about my opinions, and I have a tendency to just say exactly what I'm thinking. I'm not anything if I'm not honest. But that doesn't always make it right. Too wrongs don't make a right, and in this case, you can't fight fire with fire. Sometimes you just have to say "what a shame" and move on.

Having an unfriendly roomie can be a mess. It's a lot of loud music when you're trying to nap. It's a lot of lights flicking on and the door slamming in the middle of the night. It's awkward stares from people who you thought were your friends. It's a lot of trashed pictures, awkward memories, and really weird encounters in public. It's putting in headphones just to avoid them. It's about having your own territory.

So what's the answer to having a crappy roomie? For one, you could move rooms, move out, or even try talking it out. If you've tried talking it out and a mediator just made it worse; you're in my shoes. The current answer is cohabitation. I do my thing, she does her's. It's quiet when they're around, but it's like having a room to yourself honestly. Sometimes you just have to make the best of a bad situation. And sometimes...you just have to be an adult about it, even if you're the only one acting like a grown-up.

Sometimes, it's hard to be an adult. It's soooo much easier sometimes to cop an attitude and fight back. But Momma always said, "Kill them with kindness. If you don't have anything nice to say, don't say it at all." That's so hard to do honestly. Sometimes I have to LITERALLY bite my tongue. But in the end, it's worth it knowing you took the high road. Stooping down to their level would be worse than arguing.

There are always going to be people that you disagree with. Whether it be at work, school, friends, parents, or worst of all...the person you live with. But, take it in stride. Roommates don't last forever. Learning to deal with the negative in your life helps you grow as a person. Not only that, but it makes you appreciate the friends you DO have. It makes you appreciate a home away from dorm-life. So, if you have a bad roommate, and you're in the same boat...just breathe. Know you're the bigger person, wish them the best, and just smile. Because you can do it. Besides, you already accomplished one thing! You're not them!

-A

Report this Content
This article has not been reviewed by Odyssey HQ and solely reflects the ideas and opinions of the creator.
Adulting

Unlocking Lake People's Secrets: 15 Must-Knows!

There's no other place you'd rather be in the summer.

936136
Group of joyful friends sitting in a boat
Haley Harvey

The people that spend their summers at the lake are a unique group of people.

Whether you grew up going to the lake, have only recently started going, or have only been once or twice, you know it takes a certain kind of person to be a lake person. To the long-time lake people, the lake holds a special place in your heart, no matter how dirty the water may look.

Keep Reading...Show less
Student Life

Top 10 Reasons My School Rocks!

Why I Chose a Small School Over a Big University.

112923
man in black long sleeve shirt and black pants walking on white concrete pathway

I was asked so many times why I wanted to go to a small school when a big university is so much better. Don't get me wrong, I'm sure a big university is great but I absolutely love going to a small school. I know that I miss out on big sporting events and having people actually know where it is. I can't even count how many times I've been asked where it is and I know they won't know so I just say "somewhere in the middle of Wisconsin." But, I get to know most people at my school and I know my professors very well. Not to mention, being able to walk to the other side of campus in 5 minutes at a casual walking pace. I am so happy I made the decision to go to school where I did. I love my school and these are just a few reasons why.

Keep Reading...Show less
Lots of people sat on the cinema wearing 3D glasses
Pinterest

Ever wonder what your friend meant when they started babbling about you taking their stapler? Or how whenever you ask your friend for a favor they respond with "As You Wish?" Are you looking for new and creative ways to insult your friends?

Well, look no further. Here is a list of 70 of the most quotable movies of all time. Here you will find answers to your questions along with a multitude of other things such as; new insults for your friends, interesting characters, fantastic story lines, and of course quotes to log into your mind for future use.

Keep Reading...Show less
New Year Resolutions

It's 2024! You drank champagne, you wore funny glasses, and you watched the ball drop as you sang the night away with your best friends and family. What comes next you may ask? Sadly you will have to return to the real world full of work and school and paying bills. "Ah! But I have my New Year's Resolutions!"- you may say. But most of them are 100% complete cliches that you won't hold on to. Here is a list of those things you hear all around the world.

Keep Reading...Show less
Lifestyle

The Ultimate Birthday: Unveiling the Perfect Day to Celebrate!

Let's be real, the day your birthday falls on could really make or break it.

75480
​different color birthday candles on a cake
Blacksburg Children's Museum

You heard it here first: birthdays in college are some of the best days of your four years. For one day annually, you get to forget about your identity as a stressed, broke, and overworked student, and take the time to celebrate. You can throw your responsibilities for a day, use your one skip in that class you hate, receive kind cards and gifts from loved ones and just enjoy yourself.

Keep Reading...Show less

Subscribe to Our Newsletter

Facebook Comments