" God won’t give us more than we can handle."
I don't know about all of you, but I do know that a military relationship is hard. I see homecoming videos that hit me right in the feels, I see families that I went to high school with saying "see you later" to their wife/husband and kids. I keep up with so many people and their adventures throughout a military relationship. I did a lot of research/interviews of various ages and people that I know. Friends and family members helped me with this article. I want to send a special thank you for your time and opening up to me for this one. I hope you like it. "If I don't tell you anything else today, just know that I love you." Over and over, you are constantly asking yourself "again?" when they tell you that its time to leave...Yes, again. So many thoughts are rushing through your head and feelings are pounding in your heart. Sometimes its a straight rip in two or a crushed heart that you never get used to. It's never going to be easy no matter what type of military aspect it is. It gets overwhelming. Whether you are both armed forces stationed together, your military significant other (SO) is always on deployment/detachments, or your schedule is always as crazy as theirs. You will always ask yourself if everything is going to work out. You each have to remember how much you love one another, and at times it can be hard, but we know that it is well worth the heartache and struggle because the reunion is what we live for. "I love you to the moon and back."Some of us wish they could change the crazy hours, the wish of being home for the holidays, birthdays, and also just spending as much time together as possible because you never know when "again" is going to happen. Some of you spend more time apart than you do together. You are never ready to get yourself into this type of life, even when you think you will have everything under control. But it slaps you into reality and wakes you up. It makes you realize that it isn't as easy as you thought it would be. You have to be okay with the distance and the aspect of them just leaving at any time, because job and mission come first; family second. You have to be okay with learning to be a mother on your own, that emails and letters are really the only bit of communication you get, being okay about when and where you are moving to next. "The reunion will be worth the wait."
The everyday hardships you go through. You
feel like you are doing it alone
at least once a day, but
having friends and family to go to for help turns all that thought around, and
then it's not so bad. The loss of communication, affection, and the separation
of soldier and significant other, "leave your boots at the door." The
weight of feeling alone can be hard on your heart and the heart of a child. The
children can feel like their parents aren't a part of their life, and that they
don't matter. Some of my resources said that it is harder on the kids than it
is themselves. The children go through different emotions than a parent, and it
can take its toll. They go to different schools, learn different ways of
teaching, learn to make friends all over again, scared to death of not fitting
in. Being labeled as "new kid" or "army brat.” You
have to
think about your kid’s feelings and emotions just as much or more than your
own.
