They May Not Be My Biological Parents, But I Call My Grandparents 'Mom' & 'Dad'

They May Not Be My Biological Parents, But I Call My Grandparents 'Mom' & 'Dad'

They may not have given birth to me, but they were the people who raised me and I'm eternally grateful.


Dear Grandma and Grandpa,

From the moment I was born, you knew that you two would raise me. Not because my mother and father weren't capable, but because they weren't ready. I was not yours, but you intended to raise me like I was.

As a child, I remember driving up the street every day to go play at your house after school. From playing make-believe games with me, Grandpa sneaking me pieces of fudge before dinner, to Grandma buying me multitudes of Cabbage Patch Kids because I was obsessed.


You both were there to pull my first tooth and you both bought me all my uniforms for school. You praised me when I got straight A's and calmed me down when I was stressed about Chemistry... or Geometry.

You sent me off to prom (all three years I attended), taught me how to drive, were front row to my graduation, and sent me off to a college that was 1,400 miles away.

Now, I am almost done with my freshman year of college, waiting to see where the future takes me. Because of this, you may feel like I am becoming more distant. And, I know, we don't talk every day... or sometimes every week but know that I can feel your love and prayers across the country.

I know that if I am having a bad day, I can talk to you about anything and you'll give me advice even though you aren't physically here to be my shoulder to cry on. I know that if I can't figure out how to cook something in the microwave, I can call Grandma and she'll give me exact instructions. I know that if need some extra cash, I can call Grandma (or maybe Grandpa, if I'm lucky) and she'll slip a little extra into my bank account. If my tire goes flat or my debit card declines, I know that I can call Grandpa and he'll get it all figured out. And, I even know that if I'm missing you, you're just a phone call away.

So, as I grow older and the realization that your baby girl is growing up and becoming more independent, know that even if I don't say it as much as I should, thank you. Thank you for being my parents. Not my stand-ins. Or my replacements. My parents. No one could have done a better job than the both of you (I mean, I think I turned out pretty good... right?).


Sure, my mother and father brought me into this world. However, you two created me to be how I am today. You both will be there to walk me down the aisle, to watch me give birth to my future children, and to hold my hand until you can't anymore. You have always been Mom and Dad to me.

Some may say that I'm spoiled for having everything that you gave me. From the private education and a car at sixteen, but I just say, "No, I'm just loved a lot."

Thank you for all that you do for me,

Love, your daughter

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To The Grandmothers Who Made Us The Women We Are Today

Sincerely, the loving granddaughters.

The relationship between a grandmother and her granddaughter is something so uniquely special and something to be treasured forever.

Your grandma loves you like you are her own daughter and adores you no matter what. She is the first person you run to when you have a problem with your parents and she never fails to grace you with the most comforting advice.

She may be guilty of spoiling you rotten but still makes sure to stress the importance of being thankful and kind.

Your grandma has most likely lived through every obstacle that you are experiencing now as a young adult and always knows just exactly what to say.

She grew up in another generation where things were probably much harder for young women than they are today.

She is a walking example of perseverance, strength, and grace who you aim to be like someday.

Your grandma teaches you the lessons she had to learn the hard way because she does not want you to make the same mistakes she did when she was growing up.

Her hugs never fail to warm your heart, her smile never fails to make you smile, and her laugh never fails to brighten your day.

She inspires you to be the best version of yourself that you can be.

You only hope that one day you can be the mother and grandmother she was to you.

A piece of girl’s heart will forever belong to her grandma that no one could ever replace.

She is the matriarch of your family and is the glue that holds you all together.

Grandmothers play such an important role in helping their granddaughters to grow into strong, intelligent, kind women.

She teaches you how to love and how to forgive.

Without the unconditional love of your grandma, you would not be the woman you are today.

To all of the grandmothers out there, thank you for being you.


the loving granddaughters

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A Letter To My Grandma Before We Say Goodbye

There are some things I want you to know before you go...


Dear Mom-Mom,

I want you to know a few things before it's time for us to say goodbye— most importantly that I love you! I may not have shown that when I was younger and said some mean things, but that was then and this is now. I have and always will love you. You have always shown me unconditional love, and nothing can ever compare. I am sorry for the fight we had when I was younger and compared you to my other grandma because you are just as wonderful and I love you just as much. I never want you to think I don't love you because I always have and always will love you.

Thank you. Thank you for always looking after me and giving me all that you could offer. I still remember when I was younger and would go to your house after school every Friday and order that gross pizza you and I both hated, but Pop loved it. We would play all night until mom and dad came to get me. Thank you. Thank you for taking me out to buy toys or to eat at my favorite places. You always made sure I was at my happiest. I love you.

You are so strong. Remember when they told you, you didn't have that much longer to live. You only had a couple of years. That was my first birthday. You told them to let you out to right now to celebrate and they listened. But you didn't listen to them when they told you that you only had so much longer. You showed them. Here you are, 19 years later still showing them that those couple of years meant nothing, and they don't know what they're talking about. You are the strongest woman I know, and I am humbled to call you my grandmother. I love you.

Even right now, with all you are going through, you continue to show them they're wrong. You continue to keep living your life and not letting the doctors bring you down. You determine when it's time. You will never change. You still are always offering me food when I am over, cracking jokes and, of course, still being your feisty self. No matter what you go through, you always come out your strong, feisty self. You are amazing. I aspire to be you one day. Raising a family of four kids then taking in two more because that's the type of person you are. You are generous, kind hearted, funny and wonderful. There is no way I can come close to being as wonderful as you, but I can and will try. I love you.

It hurts me to think that days with you are slowly coming to an end, but that doesn't mean it's goodbye forever. I know you will always be by my side. I am so grateful for that. I am grateful for everything you have done for me. I know you will always look down on me to ensure I am being my best self and never lose sight of what is important. Keep pushing through and being the strong woman you are. I love you so much.



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