As the holiday season is in full effect, there is one thing that sorority girls dread having to do: talking to their family about their sorority. When we go home for the holiday's, there are constant questions no matter who you are, but being in a sorority makes the questions even worse. Here are the things sorority girls are tired of hearing from their family:
1. "Do you live in a sorority house?"
This seems to be a common question I have to answer every holiday. I have to answer the question over and over from the same person. No. I don't live in a sorority house because my University doesn't even have them. If you listened every time I told you this you would know. But even if they did, not all girls who are in a sorority live in a house, many of them decide to live off campus just with their friends. Can you please stop asking me this and realize not all girls who are in a sorority live in a sorority house?
2. "You didn't get hazed did you?"
No. I didn't get hazed in the sorority that I've now been a part of for 2 and a half years. Sororities don't haze anymore. We may have specific rituals and things to do before you get in, but that is not hazing. Hazing is a rare thing now. Back when you went to school maybe it was a thing, but it isn't a thing now. I wouldn't stay in a sorority if it was hurting me in any way.
3. "Do you have a big or little or whatever it is? Is she like your best friend?"
Yes, I do have a big and we get them soon after we get our bid. Yes, me and my big are best friends, but not all bigs and littles are. Just because you are big and little doesn't mean you are best friends, it means that you are there for that person for whatever they need. Even some bigs and littles aren't like that but are technically big and little and that's OK too. But no, I do not have a little. Having a little is a choice and some just don't have them. So yes, having bigs and littles are a thing but they aren't perfect relationships like the media displays them.
4. "You just drink all the time right?"
No, actually I don't drink all the time. I study and do movie nights with my friends more than I go out. School means more to me than getting drunk all the time. I do go out and have fun, but so do most college students. So please don't just ask me if I like to go out and drink, ask all your other nieces and nephews in the room, not just the one in a sorority.
The biggest problem with all of these questions that sorority girls hear is that they are all based on stereotypes. Sororities are not getting drunk, living in sorority houses, and getting hazed. Sororities are about friendships that you'll have for life, memories that will last forever, and making yourself a better person by getting involved on campus.
