13 Questions You Need To Ask Yourself Before Moving In With Your S.O.

13 Questions You Need To Ask Yourself Before Moving In With Your S.O.

You better ask yourself these questions before you and your boo rent the U-haul.



 1. Do we both want to move in together?

This is the most important to ask. You don't want to have one partner on the fence about moving in. After all, that person may have doubts about the relationship, and you do not want to be roped into a lease with someone, which most of the time is a year-long, without making sure you are both on board.

 2. Who will be paying for what? 

Sometimes partners may make different amounts of money, so finances are a must to discuss when considering to move in together. In my case, my boyfriend has already graduated from college and has a pretty nice job as a mechanical engineer, while I am still a student and work at a hardware store. By his own choice, he wanted to pick up the big things by himself such as rent, but we have a 50/50 split on groceries and I pay the insurance, along with a few other small things.

 3. Do you both want to live in the same area? 

More than likely, your geographical location has brought you together. However, it is important to decide if you both want to stay in a certain area, and for what length of time.

 4. How do you feel about drug and alcohol use? 

If one partner drinks or smokes and the other doesn't, there may be an issue, especially if there has been in the past. It is important to disclose both of your feelings about having or using certain substances in the home.

 5. Do our cleanliness levels match up? 

If one person is neat as a pin and the other doesn't even know what a laundry hamper is, there may be some issues. It is important to realize beforehand how much clutter your partner can stand. Unless you spend a lot of time over each other's places, you probably would not have a feel for how tidy they like to be.

 6. Does your work or school schedule match up with theirs? 

If he works nights and you work days, this may be hard on the both of you. You may not be able to spend time with your significant other or even be able to do things around the house without disturbing them. Also, the sleeping schedule would, at least in the beginning, leave both partners a little tired.

 7. What chores do you expect each other to do? 

When living with other people, be it in a relationship or not, it is expected that each member of the household do chores. For example, my boyfriend does dishes and I make the bed, he vacuums, and I clean the bathroom. We found this balance naturally, but it is important to be upfront with your expectations.

 8. How do you feel about visitors? 

It is important to discuss with your significant other when people are coming over. If they are tired or not feeling great, a last-minute text saying, "Hey, three of my friends are coming over after work," may not be ideal. While duh, you should be able to have company over, communication is important.

 9. What foods does your other half get sick thinking about? 

If the smell of curry or fish makes your partner gag, you may need to sacrifice cooking it at home.

 10. How serious is the relationship? 

One piece of advice...if you have a gut feeling it won't work out, hold out on moving in. Moving in will not fix relationship issues. That said, it is important to discuss where you both see the relationship going. Do you just want to live together? Do you eventually want to get married? What does the future hold?

 11. Are there going to be pets involved? 

It is important to discuss if you will be bringing pets with you. Some rental places do not allow you to have pets or certain dog breeds. This should be figured out before you move rather than last minute since there is another living thing involved.

 12. How do you both prefer to sleep? 

Both my boyfriend and I need our apartment to be 65 degrees or lower when we sleep at night. He gets way too hot, and I just like to have an excuse to have three blankets on me. If your partner wants to be eight degrees and you like it cold, you better get used to the couch.

 13. How are you going to share your space?

If you're like me and have A LOT of clothes, your partner may not like having to give up most of the closet, and the dresser (sorry Justin).

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13 Movies Every Couple Needs To Watch Before They Get Married

Let's be honest, Rachel McAdams is in all the best love stories.


These 13 movies are the foundation of any long-lasting relationship, and I'm not joking. Each movie will show you something new about your partner, and make you ask each other the hard questions. How many kids do you want and how are you going to raise them? What would happen if you got into a horrible accident? Some are less serious though, like what if you could time travel?

I promise that not every one of these movies is a Nicholas Sparks classic, and I also promise that not every movie has Rachel McAdams in it!

1. "The Time Traveler's Wife"

This movie is both heartbreaking and amazing.

2. "About Time"

Let's be honest, Rachel McAdams is in all the best love stories. It's on Netflix right now, so grab some snacks and turn it on!

3. "Like Crazy"

This infamous Tumblr gif came from "Like Crazy." It's about a couple who goes long distance and build their life together. I used to cry every time I watched it, and I'm no crier! It also has the (now famous) Felicity Jones in it.

4. "The Notebook"

Every girl wants this kind of love.

5. "The Last Song"

Miley Cyrus and Liam Hemsworth are literally married now so if that isn't good luck, I don't know what is.

6. "Safe Haven"

You guessed it! This is another Nicholas Sparks classic. This movie has a dark twist as well, which men will love.

7. "Inside Out"

You may be thinking that this one is a bit weird. Well, this movie will help both you and your partner understand each other's emotions better.

8. "The Choice"

This movie is great because the female lead is feisty and extremely intelligent, which usually doesn't happen in love stories. How do you keep the love alive with a woman who is hard to get, and even harder to keep entertained?

9. "The Longest Ride"

Originally I could not stand the main female lead (Britt Robertson) but now she is in one of my favorite shows (For The People), so I have no choice. This movie had me on the end of my seat, and as a rom-com it is a must.

10. "The Age Of Adaline"

I began loving the name 'Adaline' thanks to this movie. This unlikely love story and self love journey really gets me.

11. "The Vow"

Imagine falling in love with someone and building a life, but an accident forces you to start all over?

12. "Titanic"

If they don't have any sort of reaction to this movie, they are probably not the one for you.

13. "Yours, Mine, & Ours"

Yours, Mine, & Ours is a true classic. Are you Helen or Frank Beardsley? You should figure that out before you tie the knot!

You're welcome!

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Being A Military Wife Is Not The Same As Serving In Active Duty

It's about balance, and it's hard to find a happy medium between serving and supporting your spouse.


I enlisted into the United States Air Force as a fresh-faced 18-year-old. I had just graduated high school and never experienced life on my own, away from what I knew and my loved ones and friends. The military was my first legitimate job. Thankfully, I knew independence since I had parents that ensured I knew how to handle myself. That does not mean I joined knowing everything there was to know. Far from it, actually, but that's OK.

My first and only duty station was Malmstrom Air Force Base. Before you think that Malmstrom is some exotic and foreign land, it's definitely not. My first base was in Montana. A very cold and unpredictable climate where you could experience beautiful summer sunshine one day and the next, find yourself running back up to your room to escape from the unexpected blizzard.

I was stationed in Montana as a security forces member (military police) for six very long years. During this time, I met some wonderful people as well as some people I know I would not mind never seeing again. I did a lot of my growing up at this location.

There were hard lessons that needed to be learned and experiences that I had to have in order to know what and what not to do in the future. Security forces is not the easiest or best job in the military. There are more challenges as a security forces member than most careers in the Air Force. There is the very likely chance of deployment into hostile locations where the member will face life and death challenges and have to make quick and ugly decisions and the schedule and duties are not ideal.

However, the good often outweighs the bad. The rewards for surpassing these challenges that seemed insurmountable at the time are some of the best in the world. I can say that the life lessons during my time in the service, no matter how uncomfortable it was at the time, is an experience of a lifetime. These challenges are unknown to the military spouse.


Not long after separating from the military, I got married. We met while I was still in the military. My husband is still active duty in the Air Force, turning me into a military wife and dependent. It was a different role to take, knowing how many people in the military viewed military spouses. I found myself in a different bracket or tier than a lot of people. I was a military wife that was prior military. I understand the challenges my husband still undergoes in his enlistment because I knew the military life at one point. I did not have to be introduced into the military and the way it works blindly.

Throughout my enlistment, there were stories and jokes regarding military spouses, with emphasis on the military wife. Even now that I am no longer in the service, I still see memes on social media where military wives serve as a running joke. The jokes involving weight, attractiveness, infidelity or wives wearing the rank of their military spouse while attempting to utilize what power that rank may hold. Due to the stories I heard while I was in, I had a pre-conceived idea of what to expect as a military spouse. Some of the stories and jokes came from a center of truth. However, the stigma for a military wife would follow any and all military wives no matter the validity or lack thereof.

Photo of Yahaira Seawright at her Airman Leadership school graduation Yahaira Seawright

When I became a military wife, I wanted to make sure I did not fall under that stereotype. Becoming the dependent gave me something else to consider. It gave me the unheard side of those military spouses. There are so many challenges that we also face while being married to the military.

For example, we pick up and go at a moment's notice and often leave our careers behind if our spouses get moved. This makes it really hard to make friends and connections with other people. Plus, there's the reality that our spouses could lose their lives serving for our country.

A lot of the time, we become a single parent when our spouses are deployed. If we do go with, finding employment is really competitive and hard to do at all. It's hard on both of us because neither party will ever truly understand why things are done a certain way. Some things just aren't fair and that's a hard reality to deal with.

So, yes, the service of the military member is the military member's service, not ours. That fact does not mean we do not have our own sacrifices we made when we decided to marry into the military family.

The experience of the military member and the military spouse are two different sides, but they're both equally important.


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