What Going Through A Breakup In Quarantine Has Taught Me
Start writing a post
Swoon

I'm Healing From A Breakup In Quarantine, And It Has Taught Me A Lot About Myself

Breakups are hard, but they are even worse during a worldwide pandemic

1589
I'm Healing From A Breakup In Quarantine, And It Has Taught Me A Lot About Myself

Breakups are never easy, but it's even worse when you're quarantined during a worldwide pandemic. COVID-19 was already a lot to handle, but adding a breakup just made things 10x worse and 10x lonelier. Nobody wants to feel alone, especially when there isn't much to do to get your mind off of the current situation. That feeling of loneliness is hard to overcome, especially when you had a person and would have someone to look forward to seeing and talking to every day. I was trying to find happiness in the exact place I lost it, hoping that this was all some crazy dream, but it really happened, and I knew I needed to move on.


Broken, hurt, and lonely, finding the means to pick myself up was difficult because I didn't know it was possible without being able to go out with friends to get my mind off of things. I eventually realized the importance of staying connected with friends and spending time with family and those I love. Even though I felt alone and upset, I was never really alone. I had my friends and family there to lift me up and help me rediscover my worth. Each day would get easier and easier. I turned to activities that made me feel good like working out, getting dressed up, or listening to some upbeat breakup playlists. I let myself be sad for a few days and let myself go a bit, but then I told myself that "everything happens for a reason" and that it will be OK with time.

I turned to self-love and used this time of quarantine for some serious self-discovery instead of thinking about how lonely I'd feel sometimes. We all hate to feel alone, and it is especially hard to feel lonely in a time like this, but this too shall pass. With every heartbreak comes an opportunity to learn from it and grow from it. It takes a certain mindset to see and experience that hurt so badly as a blessing, but it is possible because life is full of experiences that will shape us into who we are destined to be. Being quarantined allowed me to look at the situation head-on and process things, not distract myself from the current situation.

Every day is not easy and sometimes there are bad days when I miss the way things used to be, but I let myself move on. Getting over a breakup is impossible unless you let yourself move on and continue the walk of life… even if that means without another person right now. People come into our lives for a reason and they either stay or leave. Every person we cross paths with is there to teach us something and I learned that I can't rely on anyone except myself for happiness and that even though I didn't have a boyfriend anymore, I could still be happy. No matter what happens in life, it happens for a reason and there is still good in the world. We are never alone and we all deserve so much happiness and joy.

Follow Swoon on Instagram.

Report this Content
Health and Wellness

Exposing Kids To Nature Is The Best Way To Get Their Creative Juices Flowing

Constantly introducing young children to the magical works of nature will further increase the willingness to engage in playful activities as well as broaden their interactions with their peers

44062

Whenever you are feeling low and anxious, just simply GO OUTSIDE and embrace nature! According to a new research study published in Frontiers in Psychology, being connected to nature and physically touching animals and flowers enable children to be happier and altruistic in nature. Not only does nature exert a bountiful force on adults, but it also serves as a therapeutic antidote to children, especially during their developmental years.

Keep Reading... Show less
Health and Wellness

5 Simple Ways To Give Yourself Grace, Especially When Life Gets Hard

Grace begins with a simple awareness of who we are and who we are becoming.

87014
Photo by Brooke Cagle on Unsplash

If there's one thing I'm absolutely terrible at, it's giving myself grace. I'm easily my own worst critic in almost everything that I do. I'm a raging perfectionist, and I have unrealistic expectations for myself at times. I can remember simple errors I made years ago, and I still hold on to them. The biggest thing I'm trying to work on is giving myself grace. I've realized that when I don't give myself grace, I miss out on being human. Even more so, I've realized that in order to give grace to others, I need to learn how to give grace to myself, too. So often, we let perfection dominate our lives without even realizing it. I've decided to change that in my own life, and I hope you'll consider doing that, too. Grace begins with a simple awareness of who we are and who we're becoming. As you read through these five affirmations and ways to give yourself grace, I hope you'll take them in. Read them. Write them down. Think about them. Most of all, I hope you'll use them to encourage yourself and realize that you are never alone and you always have the power to change your story.

Keep Reading... Show less
Entertainment

Breaking Down The Beginning, Middle, And End of Netflix's Newest 'To All The Boys' Movie

Noah Centineo and Lana Condor are back with the third and final installment of the "To All The Boys I've Loved Before" series

355382
Netflix

Were all teenagers and twenty-somethings bingeing the latest "To All The Boys: Always and Forever" last night with all of their friends on their basement TV? Nope? Just me? Oh, how I doubt that.

I have been excited for this movie ever since I saw the NYC skyline in the trailer that was released earlier this year. I'm a sucker for any movie or TV show that takes place in the Big Apple.

Keep Reading... Show less
Lifestyle

4 Ways To Own Your Story, Because Every Bit Of It Is Worth Celebrating

I hope that you don't let your current chapter stop you from pursuing the rest of your story.

222473
Photo by Manny Moreno on Unsplash

Every single one of us has a story.

I don't say that to be cliché. I don't say that to give you a false sense of encouragement. I say that to be honest. I say that to be real.

Keep Reading... Show less
Politics and Activism

How Young Feminists Can Understand And Subvert The Internalized Male Gaze

Women's self-commodification, applied through oppression and permission, is an elusive yet sexist characteristic of a laissez-faire society, where women solely exist to be consumed. (P.S. justice for Megan Fox)

114252
Paramount Pictures

Within various theories of social science and visual media, academics present the male gaze as a nebulous idea during their headache-inducing meta-discussions. However, the internalized male gaze is a reality, which is present to most people who identify as women. As we mature, we experience realizations of the perpetual male gaze.

Keep Reading... Show less
Lifestyle

It's Important To Remind Yourself To Be Open-Minded And Embrace All Life Has To Offer

Why should you be open-minded when it is so easy to be close-minded?

301791

Open-mindedness. It is something we all need a reminder of some days. Whether it's in regards to politics, religion, everyday life, or rarities in life, it is crucial to be open-minded. I want to encourage everyone to look at something with an unbiased and unfazed point of view. I oftentimes struggle with this myself.

Keep Reading... Show less
Swoon

14 Last Minute Valentine's Day Gifts Your S.O. Will Love

If they love you, they're not going to care if you didn't get them some expensive diamond necklace or Rolex watch; they just want you.

184228

Let me preface this by saying I am not a bad girlfriend.

I am simply a forgetful one.

Keep Reading... Show less
Student Life

10 Helpful Tips For College Students Taking Online Courses This Semester

Here are several ways to easily pass an online course.

124582
Photo by Vlada Karpovich on Pexels

With spring semester starting, many college students are looking to take courses for the semester. With the pandemic still ongoing, many students are likely looking for the option to take online courses.

Online courses at one time may have seemed like a last minute option for many students, but with the pandemic, they have become more necessary. Online courses can be very different from taking an on-campus course. You may be wondering what the best way to successfully complete an online course is. So, here are 10 helpful tips for any student who is planning on taking online courses this semester!

Keep Reading... Show less
Facebook Comments