I have always believed that quality of friendships are more important than how many friends you have. Having friends is amazing, you have people to lift you up when you’re down, people to laugh with, and hang out with. But, most importantly, people to depend on.
Dependability is truly one of the most important aspects of a friendship. Why consider someone a friend if they aren’t there for you when you need them most? Have you ever noticed that people with large friend groups are only genuinely close to a select few?
The truth is friendships taking building and a great friendship doesn’t happen in a day. When something goes wrong I know I have people close to me that I can share anything with. I know I have people who won’t go around spreading drama to others I don’t trust. In my small friend group, we aren’t interchangeable. We don’t just de-friend each other if an argument ensues.
Quality friendships create ‘best friend-like’ relationships. A friend that you can text in the middle of the night, and while they might first curse you out for a 3am text, they’ll talk you through anything. Personally, I would rather have a small inner circle than a bunch of people I can just say ‘hi’ to in passing. To me, that’s not a friend, that’s an acquaintance.
True friends will drop anything to be there for you. Currently, my best friend and I are more than 600 miles away. However, a quality friendship doesn’t end because of distance, or absence. We don’t need to talk everyday to continue our friendship. As people grow up, and move away, only the quality relationships will last. This goes for childhood relationships, or college friendships.
Those in your sorority who you only see at parties, or events will go unmissed. While they may have been part of your friend group in college, they won’t meet your kids one day. And perhaps they stood next to you in a few pictures, and drove you to Starbucks a few times throughout the semester, they won’t be ready to wipe your tears when you have a broken heart.
Within friendships of quantity lay friendships of quality. That’s truthfully the main point here. No matter how you shape it, you will always be closer to a few in a friend group of many. You may hang out with a lot of people, but only your closest friends know more about you than surface level.
We've all heard that to have a good friend, you must be a good friend. True friends don't leave when times get tough. "A friend who provides care, comfort and lends an ear when all others have closed doors on a person."
True friends know when they've let you down, they know if they could've been more supportive. True friends will tell you the truth no matter how bad it hurts. In the end, your true friends are family, and they will always have your best interest at heart.
Quality friends are lifelong friends.
