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It's Okay To Be Selfish

Don't feel bad for choosing you, you deserve to be a priority.

Ann Jackson
Mar 31, 2021
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It's Okay To Be Selfish
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I have spent most of my years putting others before myself, and there's nothing wrong with that, but I found that I neglected my own needs. I'm starting to learn that putting myself first isn't a bad thing, and neither you nor I should feel guilty for doing it.

If you were raised like me, you were taught to always help someone in need, never to neglect someone in their darkest times. And yes, when you can, you should help people, but you should also be able to say no. I always hesitate to reject someone in fear that they will dislike me or go around saying I'm a mean person, which is definitely where my issue with saying no roots from. But the truth of the matter is that I shouldn't have been putting the want for validation from others above my own wellbeing. That's when I realised it isn't wrong to put myself first. It isn't mean to say no. It doesn't make you a horrible person. It just means you're making YOU a priority for once.

These are the top 5 things I learnt from being "selfish":

1. How people view you does NOT determine your self-worth

2. It's okay not to be perfect; you can be the one asking someone else for help

3. It's your life. Live every moment for YOU

4. You're not a bad person if you can't help everyone

5. Just as you don't want to be judged, don't judge others for what they choose to do

When we give ourselves the chance to be imperfect and vulnerable, that is when we truly grow as human beings. Stop trying to please everyone all the time, for those who genuinely care for you will love you no matter what. Live life to the fullest. It's okay to be selfish sometimes.

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