Thank You To My Friends

To The Friends Who Put Up With My Poor Communication Skills, I Can't Thank You Enough

"I know it takes a lot of patience to put up with communication skills like mine."


"It's a two-way street."

"You need to start calling and texting me first."

"The ball's in your court."

"If you won't make the effort, why should I?"

These are just a few of the jabs I have heard from people who cannot tolerate my communication skills. I won't lie, my skills are NOT the best. My friends start conversations most of the time, and I'm very grateful for that.

However, not everyone has been as understanding.

I have autism spectrum disorder (formerly known as Asperger's) and poor communication skills are one of the main downsides.

Combine this with social anxiety and you have me! Maintaining friendships is more difficult for me than it should be.

Some people don't initiate contact most of the time. Why? Well, there could be several reasons why.

Let's get this one out of the way: "if you don't make the effort, you don't care." This is not always the case.

Sometimes the thought of trying to start a conversation can make one anxious. It definitely makes me anxious. There have been times where I want to talk to one of my friends and will want to text them, but even saying "hey" makes me sweat.

Another reason is fear of rejection.

It sounds silly, but hear me out. I hardly ever ask my friends if they want to hang out or Skype because I'm afraid that they will be too busy or they just will not want to. I know, it's stupid.

Since it takes a bit of courage to initiate contact, I feel like I mustered up the strength for nothing. It will take a while for me to try again. The discouragement sucks.

Sometimes I don't even think to start a conversation at all. I tend to live in my own little world and will forget to check up on my friends. I really don't mean to. I do think about friends and I care about what's going on in their lives.

I do want to make something crystal clear: I want friendship. I crave it! It's just hard for me to hold up my end of the deal sometimes. I truly love my friends and I appreciate them more than they know.

I know it takes a lot of patience to put up with communication skills like mine. I don't know how my friends do it.

They must really like me!

Just kidding, I know they do. One of my best friends even said to me that our friendship means so much to her, she does not care who initiates contact first. That meant so much to me. That was one of the biggest demonstrations of unconditional acceptance I had ever experienced.

I'm extremely thankful for the friendships I have. I never want to take them for granted, especially since my friends are always willing to talk to me, no matter how the conversation starts. Thank you, guys. You mean the world to me.

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1. Dresses not being long enough

Finding dresses for any occasion that will be long enough is like searching for rain in a drought. And when you find one, it's bound to either cost $$$ or not fit another aspect of your body.

2. Heck, pants are never long enough either

You are constantly flooding, or else you rolled up your jeans to look like capris. Unless you special ordered some jeans online in the coveted size LONG or EXTRA LONG, this will forever be your fate.

3. "Do you date guys that are shorter than you?"

This is a personal preference people! Don't assume that a girl will or will not date someone just based on their height difference! Also, don't judge if they aren't interested in someone who is shorter than them!

4. Not wearing heels because you don't enjoy being the skyscraper of the friend group

Wearing heels can be fun buuuuuuuut sometimes towering over everyone else is not our idea of fun.

5. It's hard to find cute shoes that actually fit

You would love to have all those cute little shoes in the clearance section, but most of them barely cover your big toe.

6. Everyone thinks you walk too fast

Short-legged people just can't keep up with you, even though you aren't even walking fast. Like at all.

7. People want to jump on your back

Just because you're tall doesn't give them the license to make you into their personal camel.

8. Never being able to cross your legs underneath desks and tables

You. Can. Not. Get. Comfortable.

9. Awkward hugs

Some people will never understand.

10. Never knowing how to pose in pictures

Should you sorority squat? Pop the hip? Bend the leg? Contort your body to feel like a normal sized human? So hard to decide.

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Summer = Rest?

Sometimes it feels as if we need a vacation... from our vacation.


Ah summer: Popsicles and sun burns, mixed with fresh-squeezed lemonade that local kids are pandering to make enough money for Roman candles and Black Cats. The crack of the bat can be heard among the simmering charcoal grills and Troy-bilts humming through the ever-lasting sun. School is out and children are wild. It's a paradise.

Or is it?

But after countless sports camps and tournaments, other camps, vacations, school (?) events, traveling teams, VBS, summer seems to have been sucked fun-free.

Maybe it's Hollywood and Harper Lee's fault for giving us this utopian view of what summer should look and feel like (I'm looking at you Sandlot). But how can we really rest this summer? Because everyone needs some actual rest, even adults.

First thing is do NOT pack your summer full. Say no to some things. Coaches and Families can expect too much and it's okay to say no to them. You have to. There is no time for kids to be kids anymore.

Work can take a backseat. Vacations need to be taken. Families need to reconnect.

And for all my super-scheduled people out there, please PLEASE don't schedule out your vacation. Just enjoy it.

Another bit of advice would be to put away the technology and spend some time outside. When was the last time you tried to catch lightning bugs? Or went for a swim? Or listened to birds on your front porch?

I may sound like I have an old soul, but I really feel like we have lost this connection to the outside world. Summer is all about getting a farmer's tan and getting stung once or twice. I can guarantee you that's some of the best therapy in the world.

Maybe this sounds all over the place. Maybe this sounds like me ranting. And it probably is.

But I'm telling you that this stuff matters. Don't let summer whiz by and you arrive in August more drained that you were in May. Enjoy this time with family and friends.

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