For some reason, I've heard that multiple people in my life have been told lately that they are disappointments. Well, I'm here to say otherwise.
To start, let me be the one to tell you that you are not a disappointment. You are nowhere near being a disappointment. You are a beautifully flawed human being who deserves nothing but support and being uplifted by those around you. Nobody is perfect; not me, not you, and most definitely not the people telling you such toxic and inaccurate things. You are trying your best to be the best you that you can be and that's all that anybody can ask of you.
It's not your fault that you can't live up to everybody's possibly unreachable expectations they have for you. You're a great person; please try to not take it to heart if somebody says this to you.
I'm not entirely sure when people start thinking that they can say this to people's faces. Arguably one of the worst feelings in the world is the feeling of disappointment- you feel as if you've let everybody down and that nothing you can do is right regardless of how hard you try. Personally, if somebody yelled at me, I wouldn't really take it to heart. However, if somebody ever told me they were disappointed in me, I would feel absolutely terrible and do anything to change the situation. Therefore, I just can't wrap my head around somebody looking somebody else in the eye and telling them that they're a disappointment. It baffles me.
Everybody is just trying their hardest. If something doesn't go exactly right for them, I'm sure that they realized it for themselves- you don't need to step in there and remind them. Whether it's a family member, a professor, or even a close friend, nobody has the right to tell you such a demeaning thing. They wouldn't like it if somebody said it to them and yet they have such ease saying it to other people. In second grade, I learned that the golden rule is "treat others the way you want to be treated." I guess some people missed this lesson during school.
If somebody ever says this to you, please know that they aren't right. In situations like this, find somebody you know you can lean on and count on to bring you back up. If one person is disappointed in you, I promise there is somebody who isn't and knows that you just tried as hard as you could. Surrounding yourself with such positivity and support will help show you how wonderful you truly are regardless of what anybody thinks.
You're not a disappointment, you're really not. You're just a wonderful human being who is trying your hardest, and that's all anybody can ask for. Keep being great!
