"He's super sweet, and he's really caring.. but I just don't feel anything between us. But everyone always tells me how great he is and how lucky I am and then I end up feeling bad about wanting to end things because there's genuinely nothing wrong. He's perfect; for someone else. I just don't see it."
Ladies, at one point or another we may have tried dating "the nice person". We dated that person because, well, they were super nice. That person was always the sweet one when all the others were jerks. They were just nice. Sort of like a safety net, like you're settling because you think that you won't find anyone better... Because everyone else is a jerk. You start dating that person and you realized that you never argue. There's never anything to argue about. You got someone who is completely obsessed with you (in a not-creepy way). All these people constantly remind you of how lucky you are, and how that seems like such a great guy or gal, you begin to feel bad for ever wanting to end the relationship. Like, hello?! Perfection is right there!!! Don't be stupid!!! But for some reason you just never really feel it with them.
I've had a lot of friends who were in similar situations. They were with someone who was extremely kind, but for some reason my friend just felt nothing in that way toward them.
You should never feel stuck with them because there's no reason NOT to be with them.
If that's the case in your relationship then you probably need to re-evaluate your choices. I totally understand not wanting to be rude and hurt someone's feelings. (Trust me, been there and done with that.) But there comes a time when you really have to think about your happiness vs. another's. You should come first, and if you're just not feeling anything for this person no matter how hard you've tried, it's okay to not want the relationship. You don't have to try and validate your emotions to spare another's, or come up with some excuse, ("I just don't think I'm ready to settle." or "We're moving too fast.") It is what it is, "Hey, you're nice but I just don't feel a spark between us." Sure, it hurts. If someone told you this I think you'd be a little salty about it, especially if you actually really like them. But at the end of the day they, like anyone else, want to know the truth.
The biggest thing that I want anyone to take away from this is that you do have a choice. At some point you will come to realize that your happiness matters too. You'll want to feel the love of someone who has a tremendous amount of passion for you, not something that's half-assed.
You always have a choice.
