Most, if not all of us, go through the single phase at least a dozen times in our lives and there's nothing wrong with that. Being single can be fun, especially in college, but it can get frustrating at times too. So here are the ups and downs, the happys and crappys, the "oh craps" and "oh yeas", the pros and cons of being single.
Pros
1. You're not tied down to one person. You get to be a free spirit and play the field, or like my grandma always said, "be friends with them all."
2. Jealousy doesn't happen. There is no one saying you can't hang out with certain people. You can hang out with all your friends, no matter the gender, and that's okay. You can even flirt a little, too.
3. You can plan your future and don't have to take another person into consideration. You can go where you want, do what you want and be who you want.
4. Girls, you don't have to worry about what you look like in the mornings. When you're sleeping alone, you wake up alone. So who cares if your makeup is smudged from yesterday and you look like a raccoon? That's right, nobody!
5. Guys, you don't have to worry about the late night or early morning interrogations. There's no one there at 2 a.m. asking you where you've been all night. So enjoy it and stay out all night if you want.
Cons
1. We all get lonely sometimes so it's nice to know you have someone there for you. Someone who can be your cuddle buddy or a thunder buddy.
2. The lack of intimacy or romance. Depending on how outgoing you are and how often you go out, this could be a problem. In a relationship, it's nice to know there's always someone there to sweep you off your feet.
3. You can start to feel left out. The older you get and the more friends you have in relationships, you can start to feel pushed aside. Even if you tag along, you could feel like the third wheel.
4. Feeling left behind. Like mentioned above, everyone is moving forward in life. It's completely normal to feel like you don't have your life together or that you're not moving forward.
5. Not having anyone to travel with. Whether you want to travel the world or travel the state, you always need a buddy. Being single just makes it a little harder to do this. The only exception would be a best friend.
As you can see, there are many benefits to being single as well as drawbacks. But no matter what end of the spectrum you're on, there is no need to rush anything. As much fun as it can be to be single, having a special person can be fun too. And as much as you might hate being alone, don't try to rush into anything or force it. Just go with the flow and let it happen, but most of all, be you and have fun!
