I never realized how much I took two years of living less than ten minutes from my boyfriend for granted. We were able to just call and go to eat whenever we wanted to. We sat together in my car each morning before school to just talk. We could hang out pretty much all the time. Of course we got tired of it sometimes because it was a constant thing and we never really had a break during those two years. Now that he has moved away to college I desperately wish for those days of us always together back. Although I go and visit, it will never be the same. We are trying to make it work and for the most part it's going well. Obstacles may fall in the way but we both agree it's worth the trouble to work them out.
Pro's of a long distance relationship:
1. Trust grows stronger.
Like I said, we were always together and always knew where the other was. Now...not so much. We really get to work on our trust in each other which we find is the key to a healthy relationship. If you are having to constantly worry about each other then you might as well not be together in the first place. No trust....no chance.
2. Space.
We lived near each other, went to the same school, hung out in the same town, and had a lot of the same friends. Now we live an hour away and aren't able to hang out like we once did. This has given us both a chance to get out of our comfort zone and go places with other people and have fun with friends separately.
3. Seeing each other is more special.
Those days we get to spend together now are absolutely great. Seeing each other everyday was nice too, don't get me wrong, but it can seem like a habit after a while. Now it's exciting to wait to see each other. We both look forward to it all week every time we make plans.
Con's of a long distance relationship:
1. Trust issues
They can kill a relationship. Like I mentioned, no trust...no chance. In the beginning we would constantly stay mad or irritated with the other not knowing who they were hanging out with or were they had been. It was no good for either of us so we knew that if we wanted to make us work we had to work on ourselves individually.
2. Conflicting schedules
Theycan make you feel like you will never see them again. Driving an hour or so can take up a lot of time and when you are juggling your work/school/and practice schedules it can make you want to just give up. The worst thing you can do is plan way ahead. It will only make things worse for you when those plans don't work out. Just take things one day at a time and last minute plans will be your new bff.
