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Pros And Cons Of Being “One Of The Guys”

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Pros And Cons Of Being “One Of The Guys”
Sarah Sullivan

1. Pro: You probably survived your wild childhood days by a slim margin.

Con: You’ve never enjoyed doing things that most girls like to do, so finding tight friendships with other girls is a difficult task.

If you’re anything like me, your bro-ness was caused by maybe having an older brother or just being surrounded by few girls growing up. Tony Hawk was one of your first crushes and the G.I. Joe Helicopter was always first on your wishlist. Other dolls were a foreign concept because you would much rather build an air-soft fort in the woods, ride a dirtbike, or play with racecars. You probably wore skinned knees like tattoos on your body and you attempted to land an ollie at least once. You don’t understand how anybody could enjoy leisurely shopping because you always go out to get exactly what you need and get out as soon as possible. Unless there was a new Call of Duty game out... in that case, you’ll wait in that line for two days to get your hands on a copy.

2. Pro: You naturally attract a crowd of guys at parties.

Con: Its usually because you’re "such a bro."

You’re everybody’s go-to beer pong partner and rather than mingling for romance you’re usually making bets over who’s going to make it to the Super Bowl. When you're not shotgunning a beer, you’re taking your usual role as wing woman because girls trust you more than they would ever trust some frat boy with liquid courage in his system. By the time you know it, it’s 2:00 a.m. and it’s time to go home and sleep alone, but at least your boys scored.

3. Pro: When you do date, you can smell the players from a mile away.

Con: You’re very skeptical of any guy you come across and slow to trust anything he says.

You’re so close to your guys that you’ve heard the way they tend to banter about girls. You’ve sat through countless vulgar conversations about girls and have learned to drown it out. You have a few womanizer bros, so you know how that mentality works and you’re not easy to please when it comes to being on the other side of a relationship. One red flag can drive you off because you know the tricks they could have up their sleeve all too well. You don't take bull, and you shouldn’t. In addition, other guys are usually pleasantly surprised by how laid back you are about the little things.

4. Pro: You always have to think ahead and be the mother of the group.

Con: Sometimes this role can be under appreciated.

Situation: You’re at the beach. Everyone is drinking, throwing the football, jumping in the waves, or catching some rays. You’ve got your purse handy with extra water bottles, sunscreen, and eight different phones/wallets with no idea whose is whose. Did somebody get hurt? You’ve got the band-aid. Is somebody hungry? Guess who is running back to the room to grab a sandwich… it's you. But, as long as everyone is having a safe and fun time, you’re happy with your Mother Goose role.

5. Pro: You have a ton of “brothers from another mother” to protect you from the creeps or to teach that guy who didn’t treat you right a lesson.

Con: Sometimes they’re a little too protective and could drive a good guy off for getting too close.

It’s really nice to be able to feel safe all the time—to know that in one phone call you can have a big beefy dude at your door, ready to mess someone up for doing you wrong. On the other hand, they could be a little too cautious with you and scare other guys away like your own personal cock block watching his every move. They’ll pick on you more than anyone else in your life but, when it comes down to it, they’re only joking. In their minds, it’s OK for them to say those things. You know all of this is out of love and when the right guy comes along, it'll be clear because he’ll be accepted by your multiple bodyguards.

6. Pro: They always come to you for advice about girls and you can have deep conversations when they need it.

Con: You have trouble giving them advice because you don’t think like a lot of girls.

On top of this, their girlfriends usually hate you for being so close to their man. They can never believe that you’re just a friend who just happens to know his eating habits better than she does and all of the video games he likes the best. Yet somehow she still expects girl code to apply when they get in an argument and you’re “supposed" to take her side, but little does she know that your loyalty to your bro runs deep. The protective nature goes both ways, and she’ll always be his SECOND favorite girl.

Essentially, If your situation is anything like mine, you’re constantly getting texts from family members about the latest photo you posted asking if that "hunk" is your new boo. Gag, he’s your best friend and you probably want to see him naked just about as much as you want to see pink become the new black. You’ve probably rough-housed with your guys just enough to worry some people because you’re used to being tossed around as the smallest of the group and your skin is always freckled with bruises. You’ve almost been arrested more than once just trying to save them from another dumb idea but hey, getting into mischief with your favorite boys is worth it and you wouldn’t trade them for the world.

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