I Promise, Your Long Distance Relationship Is Going To Be Okay

I Promise, Your Long Distance Relationship Is Going To Be Okay

A list to calm your anxieties.
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So to bring you up to speed, my boyfriend chose a co-op that resulted us being in a long distance relationship until July. Unfortunately this hasn’t been easy for either of us because we both have anxiety and being away from each other is proving to be quite difficult. If you know anything about us, you know we are extremely loving and extremely dependent on each other’s physical support. So as you can imagine, these 7 months have been, to be blunt, a tortuous hell. Here’s a list of things I’ve noticed while in this crazy endeavor.


1. You miss him more than anything else you’ve ever missed before.

My goofball has been gone from my side almost 5 months now and I can tell you it has been pure h-e double hockey sticks to the max.


2. You feel like you’re getting stabbed a million times.

Try to hang on, in the end, if it’s meant to be it will be, right?


3. Do your own thing.

I gave up on this once I changed jobs. Let me tell you, if you don’t do your own thing, you absolutely will be miserable.


4. When together, take all the pictures.

Print them out, or something, and make something with them. It’ll distract you, and make you feel better.


5. It is normal to not feel okay sometimes.

It’s okay to stay in your pajamas and cry. Just don’t do it everyday.


6. It is not the end of the world.

It may feel like your entire world is ending, but I promise you, it’s not. He will be back soon, and you will still have all the love.


7. It’s okay to feel clingy and annoying.

You love him, right? It’s okay to want to be with him 24/7.


8. Open and Honest Communication

Without it, you can misunderstand each other, and if you both have anxiety like my love and I do, it can make little misunderstandings turn in to big problems.


9. Support each other.

If you both have anxiety, you both need that support. I know for me, it means letting him rub his fingers in little circles on my shirt. For me, it’s leaning on his shoulder.


10. Don’t give up.

Seriously I know how hard it is to want to give up. I understand, but unless things seriously aren’t working, don’t give up just because of distance, or just because he or you has anxiety. It’s hard. I know. But don’t give up. You can do this. As long as you both try, it shouldn’t matter. All that matters in the end is that you love each other.

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An Open Letter To My Boyfriend's Mom

A simple thank you is not enough.
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Your son and I have been dating a while now and I just wanted to thank you for everything.

Wow, where do I start? Ever since the day your son brought me into your home you have shown me nothing but kindness. I have not one negative thought about you and I am truly thankful for that. I first and foremost want to thank you for welcoming me with open arms. There are horror stories of mothers resenting their son's girlfriends and I am blessed there is no resentment or harsh feelings.

Thank you for treating me like one of your children, with so much love but knowing exactly when to tease me.

Thank you for sticking up for me when your son teases me, even though I know it’s all in good fun it's always comforting knowing you have someone by your side.

Thank you for raising a man who respects women and knows how to take responsibility of mistakes and not a boy who is immature and doesn’t take responsibility.

Thank you for always including me in family affairs, I may not be blood family but you do everything you can to make sure I feel like I am.

Thank you for letting me make memories with your family.

There is nothing I value more in this world then memories with friends and family and I am thankful you want and are willing to include me in yours. I have so much to thank you for my thoughts keep running together.

The most important thing I have to thank you for is for trusting me with your son. I know how precious and valuable he is and I won't break his heart. I will do everything I can to make him happy. This means more than you could ever imagine and I promise I will never break your trust.

The second most important thing I must thank you for is for accepting me for who I am. Never have you ever wished I looked like another girl or acted like another girl. You simply love and care for me and that’s all I could ever ask. Every person in this world is a unique different person and understanding that means a lot.

The third most important thing I must thank you is teaching me how to one day in the future treat a potential girlfriend that I may interact with as a mother. I am not a mother, but I one day plan to be. If I ever have a son it is because of how you treated me that I am able to be a humble loving mother to this new face that could one day walk into my door. How you have treated me has taught me how I should one day be in the future and I thank you for that.

This may seem all over the place but that’s how my brain gets when I try and thank you for everything you have done for me. It’s all so much and even the little things are so important so I promise my scattered thoughts are all with good intentions and not meant to bombard you. I just want to get the idea across to you that you are important and special to me and everything you do does not go unnoticed.

Sincerely,

Your Son’s Girlfriend

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How I'm Surviving Long-Distance With The Friend I Didn't Want To Leave

Two friends who weren't ready to leave each other.

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Lani and I met right when I moved to a new town in South Carolina. I was ten years old and she was in my Sunday school class at synagogue. After my first class was over, I found out that our moms had become friends downstairs while we were upstairs learning. Soon after, I went with my mom to their house and our friendship began. Almost nine years later, we are less like friends and more like sisters.

We think that the thing that really made our friendship last was that we never went to school together, so we only saw each other once a week. Through the grade school friendships that came and went, ours never faded. We were constants in each other's lives — at least until she moved away. Her dad got a job in Ohio our senior year of high school.

She finished out the year and went back and forth between home and her new home all summer. I was so scared about what this meant for us. I thought this eight-year friendship had taken its last breath. She was living in Ohio and going to college in Washington D.C., and I was living in South Carolina and going to school in Alabama. No way we could keep that going. But we kept texting, and FaceTiming, and most importantly, we kept missing each other. We went ten months without seeing one another. The fact that we stayed close is honestly a miracle.

Since we weren't in each other's lives at all we had so much to talk about. We laughed about how her roommate had the exact same first and middle name as I do, and that she hangs out with my sister a lot since she also lives in Washington. We would reminisce about how cringy we used to be making little movies on her old laptop, and that we had no clue how lucky we were to be able to see each other whenever we wanted.

At the end of the school year, we promised each other that we had to meet up one way or another over the summer. We were rather reckless and bought plane tickets to San Francisco with pretty minimal planning. I felt my body bursting with excitement. I would say things to my friends like "Hey only 42 days until San Francisco," to which they usually didn't reply since they weren't the ones going and they really didn't care. But really, who could blame them; I was being very obnoxious.

42 days later finally came, and I speed-walked off my plane at the Dallas-Fort Worth Airport to find Lani at my gate. We hugged, then immediately said, "Ew, we never hug." I didn't care though. I was happy to be with my best friend and felt such pride in the fact that we made it through ten months of separation and we could pick up right where we left off.

The trip was amazing, and I wanted to cry when it was over (partially because I was sad to leave Lani, and partially because I was taking a red-eye flight that took off at midnight and I was exhausted). We parted ways, fully knowing that it might be another ten months - or maybe longer - before we could see each other again. But this time, I wasn't so worried about us. I know we'll always end up in each other's weddings and at each other's children's weddings one day.

*Side note: In case you are worried about the length of our separation, don't be! We have plans to see each other in September.

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