There are approximately 6,895,889,018 individuals in the world; 6,895,889,018 individuals you can compare yourself to. But why? Why would anyone compare him or herself to anyone else? Because the truth of the matter is you are one of a kind, and that is all that matters.
I have struggled with understanding that concept since I was in middle school. There is always going to a prettier, funnier, better-bodied girl out there, but we have to focus on more than that. Society has made it clear the type of girls boys like. Not all boys, but if you want “the guy” you better have a big butt, big boobs, and be a seven or above on the hotness scale (and yes, a lot of those douchebag guys really do rate girls). But are these really the guys we want to be with? Well yes, they are super hot. But really, girls, do we really want to be with someone that only likes us if we look a certain way? Someone who does not exactly care about the personality? No, we do not, and that is the hardest thing to understand. We want someone to love us the way we are. Sure, I do not have the biggest boobs or butt, or work out every day, but I will tell you that I try to be the nicest person I can be to every single person I meet. But hey, those super attractive hot guys won’t take the time to get to know me like that if my looks don’t reel them in first.
Although, I want this to be the end of the article and say, “OK, girls! See, it does not matter if the hot people do not like you! They are douchebags, so you do not want them! You’re lucking out,” I cannot. I cannot because as much as this is true, that is just not how most females' brains work. It is a constant struggle of comparisons with others and trying to become the girl every person wants.
This is not an easy fix either. The only thing a girl can do is love herself; love herself so much the opinions of douchebag, superficial people do not matter. I have been working on this the past few months. I look in the mirror, think of one thing a day that does not fit the perfect girl stereotype, and turn it into a positive. I am not saying it is easy, but it helps one understand themselves and realize they are perfect and beautiful in their own way. I have even started to look at every person I see and think, “They are beautiful.” Sure, not everyone is the stereotypical female or male society makes out to be beautiful, but really, everyone is beautiful. The way one’s eyes might sparkle, or just a simple smile that may light up a room. I challenge everyone to stop a stranger and tell him or her they are beautiful once a week because I am sure most people, most strangers, have doubts about themselves and compare themselves to others. I also guarantee you telling a stranger they are beautiful will make their day, week, or month maybe. You are beautiful.
