Here’s the breakdown of the major problem with relationships. Every single fight you have ever had with your significant other stems from this one problem. Every disagreement that turned into an all-out battle and every view, which adds value into your life, yet differs from your partner’s could be seen from a new perspective; one of understanding and patience instead of doubt in your ability to sink rather than swim through days that make you wonder if any of it is even worth it.
If you are in a relationship right now or ever were in one, I want you to imagine yourself as an individual, because that is what you are. Think about how you stand alone, as a single entity, and with every turn of the page in the novel of your life, you are ultimately creating your own destiny. You choose who enters, who stays, and who goes. I think many people tend to forget their individualistic freedom and instead lean on their partner for support in aspects of their lives that they can take control of on their own.
Your relationship should never be the backbone to your life’s problems. The harsh truth is that, at the end of the day, you are on your own. You view the world through YOUR own eyes. Your perspective when compared to other individuals is unique, just like your partner’s is. You found each other by chance or a slip of faith, but you are both just single entities growing to and from one another.
Learning to communicate to each other your particular existence may be difficult at times, but you must keep in mind that nobody has any answers for us in this world. Your individual views and perspectives are an entirety of the experiences you've had in your life. Those experiences are exclusive to you and only you, and your partner is lucky enough that you are welcoming him or her into seeing the world through your eyes.
In laymens terms, do what you want to do. At the end of the day, you are here to build the path to your own destiny. Not anybody else’s. You can only make room for others, but if they do not want to fill that gap, then that is their individualistic freedom, which you should respect. Focus on yourself, and those who are drawn to your lifestyle will come.
If you are no longer feeling loved or wanted by your partner, that is your problem. You need to love yourself. Always work on yourself before trying to work on your relationship. There is always an aspect of your life that you can take a hold of on your own and improve yourself in the end.
You don’t have the same political views? Go find people who do. Your partner is not supposed to be a carbon copy of you. Represent your lifestyle through your actions, not your voice. It does not have to be heard nearly as badly as you think it does. Hold off on that Facebook post about who should be the next president of the United States, and instead live the life that represents you best.
You don’t feel appreciated for what you are doing for your significant other? Start doing things for them because you want to, not because you are expecting a thank-you. Because as an individual, you should be doing things for other people because it makes YOU feel good. For example, my boyfriend loves to cook and I love to eat. He cooks because it makes him happy, and I am just reaping the rewards.
You need more bump and grind in your life? Go buy a vibrator. Seriously, love yourself. Every person has differing sex drives, so take care of yourself as an individual instead of depending on your partner to do all of the work. You need to become in sync with your own body before you can expect the hot and heavy in the bedroom.
Even if you are in a relationship, you are still a single human being. Remember to keep your individualistic freedom alive and burning bright, and it will guide you in the right direction for you.
