The Lost Treasure of Old Fashioned Love

What has happened to old fashioned love? You never see it anymore. You rarely see relationships that are built on selflessness, trust, passion, and compromise. The world of relationships has evolved to “talking” being the new dating and “dating” being the new semi-committed. Instead of investing and working through issues we dispose of the relationship to seek out a new one with minor problems. This new world of relationships allows cheating, lying, and disrespect to be overlooked and placed on the backburner. In the old days this would have never happened. If a man or woman were “going steady,” this means that they were dedicated to one individual not three, they were honest companions, disrespect was a rare act, and they didn’t walk away from any problems.

Why do we allow cheating? Is it because we want security without the responsibilities. We like the idea of having someone to fall back on but not someone to fully go forward with. I get that social media and so forth make it more difficult than it used to be, but understand that just because there are many fish in the sea, does not mean that all those fishes should be caught. You’ll always remember that one amazing catch, but the rest were just tossed back in. Remember that before you toss that one amazing catch back in to be caught by a different fisherman.

Why do we allow lying? I understand that there are big lies and white lies, but honestly why lie at all? What is the point behind a lie? It doesn’t benefit you, progress the relationship, or help it in the long term. It will hinder the relationship in some way, shape, or form. I know it’s cliché to say, but the painful truth is always better than a sweet lie.

Why do we allow disrespect? There will be times that hurtful words are said, no relationship is perfect, but it should never be a constant flow of negativity. You have to stand your ground. If it bothers you deep down and you know it isn’t right, don’t mold to the situation, stand your ground and speak up. Remember what you allow will always continue.

Now, in seeking for an old fashioned relationship remember that it is not handed to you. You don’t just find that perfect someone and from then on everything is grand and great. An old fashioned relationship is two individuals that invest in each other, grow together, and who are dedicated 100 percent in one another. You work for an old fashioned relationship, you establish boundaries, you communicate about the bad and good, and you do the little things for one another. Relationships are not going to be sunshine and roses all the time. There will be days or weeks where it is cloudy, you are emotional, and problems are happening. If you are not willing to overcome these actions, you will not be thankful for the sunshine and you will not count your blessings. It takes work, but it is well worth it. Do not forget you determine what relationship you want.