It's true what they say - good girls love bad boys.
Why? I honestly don't know. I spent pretty much all of high school and my first year of college caught up in the idea of them, though. If there was a club for girls who loved bad boys, I would've been the leader.
But here's the problem with chasing bad boys..
You can't fix them.
Growing up, I've always been a "fixer". I've spent basically my entire life examining things and thinking of ways that I could potentially make them better. People are my passion and I love to help them. Maybe it's because I'm a female, maybe it's because I'm a Christian, maybe it's both, maybe it's neither. But regardless, I have watched myself become someone who is fixated on "fixing people." But, if I've learned one thing in my almost 21 short years of life, it's that you can't change people. You can help people, you can love people, you can cry for people, and you can pray for people, but you absolutely cannot change them. No one will change until they want to. Are there those rare instances where the beautiful girl comes along and makes the hot, drop-out, drug-dealing, hottie change his rebellious ways? Sure (A Walk to Remember, duh). And that's great. But you want a project or a relationship?
They are not looking out for your best interest.
If you don't already know this, I'm sorry to be the one to have to break it to you. They will draw you in by telling you everything you want to hear, and as soon as they know they have you, it's game over. Every decision will always revolve around what they want. And let me just remind you, if someone is okay with putting you in situations that they know make you uncomfortable, they do not care about you. If someone cheats on you, they do not care about you. If someone does not push you to be the best version of yourself that you can be, they do not care about you.
They will leave you as soon as the next best thing comes along.
It's like a junkie chasing a high. It's an endless cycle of leaving the person they're with for someone they deem as better. They are content for the time being, probably even really happy, but it won't last. You will be a temporary fix, and soon you won't be enough to satisfy the high anymore.
Here's something to think about... If you cannot picture yourself marrying *insert name here*, then why would you want him to begin with? Why would you possibly want to waste even seconds of your life pouring your heart into someone who ultimately will not play a part in the grand scheme of it? Even more than that, is he someone who you would be proud for your son to turn out like? Probably not. Do you wanna know why nice guys finish last? It's because they're the ones you end up with.
You see, the problem with chasing bad boys is just that. The chasing. You deserve to be chased and pursued, not the other way around.
