A question that girls have been asking for centuries (and that I am currently asking now) is “when do you know the guy you like, likes you back?” I always seem to get myself stuck in this awkward stage of figuring out when it is okay to tell “that friend” that you want to be more than “just friends.”
This guy I’m referring to is far from my usual "type." I usually have a thing for tall, light-skinned gentlemen. A guy that I know that likes me for me, flaws and all. However, the guy I’m currently falling for is completely opposite of my norm, and or some reason my feelings for him are so strong. We share such a strong bond, even though we just met a few days ago. Yes, I know liking him after just a couple days is crazy, but I just can’t help myself.
Have you ever been around somebody and you just can’t help but smile? You love being around, can’t help but messing with them, are always laughing with them, and hate when when it’s time to leave? Well, that is my current situation. My feelings have never been this strong for somebody so soon. You would think that’s the only problem. It’s not. This crush of mine is “talking” to somebody else. Now I’ve asked multiple people the question: ”If you like somebody but he’s talking to somebody else is it wrong to tell him you like him?” Everybody replied no because he’s not in a relationship yet. Although I don’t do well with rejection I don’t want to know I didn’t try. I feel that if he liked me, he would tell me. So I’m here stuck thinking about what I should do. Although I don’t want to lose his friendship, I don’t want to just be friends. Honestly I feel like I just can’t be his friend, but I’m going to because I don’t want to risk it. What we have as a friendship is so solid that I rather keep it.
Furthermore, you never know what will happen down the road. It’s always good to have a long strong friendship before dating anyway. I’ve had many discussions with him, and it’s clear he’s been through a lot. He seems somewhat happy now, so who am I to change that? Although I want to be happy as well, I guess I will have to take one for the team like I always do. Deep down I have a feeling he likes me though, which brings me back to my original question; HOW CAN YOU TELL? I can sense it but I don’t want to make the first move. Even though when we were talking, he stated that he’s never been the person to admit he likes somebody first. Every time we talk we get back on that subject. I mean we talk about everything. Food, exs, family, church and way more. I feel like I never been attached to somebody emotionally and it doesn’t have to be physical. That’s exactly why I don’t want to make things awkward and step out the box plus I might be moving too fast.
So I’ll sit back and take things slow and see where things will go. I just hope it’s the right decision.
