The people in my life who have been with me for a long period of time just know what it is and what's it not. What's understood doesn't need to be explained. I never really felt the obligation to broadcast anything. I share what I want in the timing I want. Nobody has to put a battery in my back, I'm vocal all on my own.

I think that secrecy and privacy are two different things. I think only people who want to distort those lines will find an issue with a private person. I am not one of those girls who will post their feelings. I have never been the type to divulge information about myself just based on closeness to people.

A lot of people find that sketchy and shady. "What are you hiding?" But honestly, in the way that it's strange that I'm kinda closed when talking about certain things. I look at the people who just overshare like DAMN you're brave.

Obviously there are extremes to both sides. I don't know where I fall on the spectrum. But in my experience people rarely want to know about you, for you. So my stance has been just keeping everyone on a need to know and when the time comes more will be told.

I don't do it to sound mysterious or cool. I just don't understand why I need to be an open book to people who don't even deserve to know me like that. I take it as a privilege to know me and be in my space. I think everyone should guard themselves as such by the way. People should value themselves just as much as you value your favorite celebrity. It's a privilege for someone to know you on any level.

Anyways, I think privacy and secrecy are ultimately about intent. What motivates you to act in that way, fear? Trust issues? insecurity? Self-absorbed? I think that once you dissect the root of what causes us to be a certain way we can then move accordingly.