Why do we so frequently believe this notion that making ourselves happy is synonymous with being selfish? We should never allow ourselves to feel guilty for putting our personal happiness above anything else due to worrying that we will be labeled as "selfish." When we are content and feeling happy, then it is so much easier to emit those same feelings of positivity out into the world.
Oftentimes, like attracts like. In other words, if somebody is feeling positive then the people around them will begin to feel more positive, too. Thus, the best way for me to assist in cultivating a positive environment is if I am also of a positive mindset. The chain reaction of smiling, proper body language, and overall awareness are incredible when there is at least one content person amongst the group. It is amazing how the positive energy from one person flows into the group and can have an effect all the way across.
The only way I can be that person, who invigorates the flow of positivity into the environment that I am in, is if I am first content with myself.
Therefore, making my happiness a priority on my list of value preferences should not be shamed. I should not be thought of as an inconsiderate human being for first making sure that my needs are met prior to helping others meet theirs because how well am I truly going to operate if I am not at my personal best first?
More often than not, those people who do choose to devote some time to their personal wellbeing and development are going to receive some scrutinizing feedback from others for their choice. However, this is nothing to get upset about; this is the same for any decision that you make. There will always be people who do not agree with what you are doing. Do not let these outside thoughts and opinions offend you when the time comes to finally pursue some much-needed self-care. Afterall, those who are most judgmental about your decision to prioritize personal happiness are probably the ones who need to incorporate it the most into their lifestyles.
Never feel guilty for making yourself happy. Instead, acknowledge that you are aware of the process of self-care and meeting personal needs. You realize that feeling good is not something to be ashamed of; rather, it is the creation and then emission of positive energy into the surrounding area.
Your chain is only as strong as your weakest link. Since we are all links to various different chains in life (work environments, friend groups, family households, relationships, etc.) then it is important that we remain as strong as possible, individually, to help our chains be the best that they can possibly be. So, go ahead and prioritize your happiness because, in the long run, it will help out your whole chain.
