This condition is fairly common and is not specific to females. Without its "unofficial name" (how cool would it be if this was its actual name) this is referring to someone having a negative attitude change in result of a change in their created social structure. Everyone gets a little upset when things don't go their own way, but it normally isn't a big deal. Recently, it dawned on me how this affects my friends, family and others around me. How this could be more deadly to future relationships than anyone could have guessed.
There is a difference between fighting for what you believe in and creating a fight that isn't there. I see myself as driven and can come off as brash and I refuse to apologize for it. This becomes an issue when I take this attitude with every part of my life and end up screaming at my best friends for picking a movie in what I think is "too slow." Just to help set the tone, this could sometimes conclude with me deciding to not watch anything even if they pick what I wanted. Of course, now everyone is just staring at each other awkwardly, trying to pretend that it never happened. Have fun keeping the fun going after that.
Situations like this used to be a regular occurrence until I saw someone else doing it and watching how I and everyone else felt about it. I hated the feeling, the last thing I wanted to be was mad at one of my friends. All I wanted to do was help,but it resulted in me enabling her, by making sure I was a buffer in the situation. The buffer that would make sure everything was okay and make sure everyone involved was the happiest they could be. The bitterness then started to set in, as I started to think about how she had never known and real struggle. I'd think about how far she'd fall if she was thrown out into the real world right now. How she won't be prepared for the wake up call that I think she needs. Are these thoughts you really want to have towards one of your close friends? If you wanted to know how its ending up at the moment, its exhausting, which made me reflect on myself.
Was it a job or chore to be my friend during these times? I'm aware there's no such thing as the perfect friend, however, no behavior should get out of hand. Was my behavior slowly poisoning all of my current and potential relationships? I can say that I'm not sure how it has affected everyone else in my life, as I'm still reflecting and trying to make myself better.
After seeing this nearly tear apart what I thought was a close friend group, I wish someone would have told me sooner. So I would have known that what I thought was bold determination was turning into poison.
