In today’s society, being selfish is seen as one of the most negative traits to have. Since the young age, we are taught to put others first and worry about ourselves last. I now know this shouldn’t always be how people act.
The Merriam-Webster dictionary describes "selfish" as: arising from concern with one's own welfare or advantage in disregard of others. The way the Merriam-Webster dictionary describes selfish is perfect because it emphasizes how the individual is putting their own welfare above others. And that is perfectly fine. It is okay to put yourself first. It is okay to be selfish. Putting yourself first doesn’t mean you are any less compassionate. What is the point in trying to always make other people happy if you are not happy yourself? The key to personal happiness is being selfish.
The type of selfishness I’m referring to is not having a lack of compassion towards others, but to have more of a selfish mindset. You need to stop thinking your own happiness comes second. You are important. You deserve to live the happiest life you possibly can. Don't put your life on the backburner.
Relationships
Every healthy relationship, romantic or platonic, requires a little give and take. You may be good at giving, but are you getting anything in return? There is no point in being in a relationship if you are not getting anything back. It is probably causing more pain than happiness. Respect yourself enough to walk away from anyone or anything that no longer serves you, grows you, or makes you happy. Be selfish in your relationships. It is perfectly okay to cut people out of your life.
Time
Time is so precious. You only have so much of it. Life flashes before your eyes and someday you are going to look back and reflect on your past life. Everyone has regrets in life but don’t add to those regrets by making certain decisions based on someone else and not your own happiness. Don’t waste your time pleasing others. Take time to do things that benefit you and add happiness in your own life.
In order to discover who you are as a person and find a personal happiness, you need to be selfish. We are taught to put others first and disregard ourselves. Start making decisions because they are the best decision for you; especially when it comes to your relationships and time. Don’t make decisions trying to please other people. You be you. So I beg of you to please be selfish.
