Girl crushes can go one of two ways- either you end up totally questioning your sexuality or totally questioning why this person isn't your best friend yet. The latter is known as the infamous platonic girl crush (AKA the total obsession with a friend or even a complete stranger that you can only imagine having the most amazing friendship with). If you are a woman in my life, chances are I have been guilty of feeling this extreme lady bromance in your favor.
For as long as I can remember, I have always been the kind of girl with a huge group of girlfriends. My groups have always been diverse- all of my friends had different traits in common with me and other qualities that I wish I embodied. And it's not just my friends, my older sister's friends have been victims of my hardcore platonic love also. I just have a very "I want to be you when I grow up" mindset and I always have, even if the person is the same age as me. I love being surrounded by people that I can look up to.
Women are always so quick to tear each other apart, which is one of the main reasons I'll always embrace the platonic girl crush- it's the positive alternative to being jealous of your friends: falling in deep friend love with them. The best part about platonic girl crushes are how uplifting they are to women, not only to the person on the other side of the crush but to me as well. These crushes are never negative towards myself. There's never a moment where I think my friend is beautiful and then feel bad about my looks, or I think my friend is intelligent and then don't feel as smart, or think my friend has any other great quality and look down on myself for not having the same. These things make me want to better myself, instead of tear myself down. If more women build themselves up, while building other women up, everyone would be so much happier.
Th only down side to the platonic girl crush is it can be mistaken for obsession. If you let it take you over, you become the creepy obsessive friend, rather than the loving friend. I mean, I like attention so I wouldn't even be mad but I totally get where the vibe comes from. We just have to find a happy medium and roll with it. Friend love is good and we all need to be on both sides of the lady bromance every once in a while.
