Do we fall in love in the hopes of finally being able to love ourselves? Do we maintain friendships in an attempt to fill our own emptiness with the company of others? Of every dehumanizing aspect we are each subjected to in this world, most of them are perpetuated – if not created – by other humans.

We create predispositions for people in order to better cope with the complexity of life, but doing so only helps to strangle the individuality placed in every human. Putting expectations on others not only prevents you from fully experiencing their true existence, it also pressures them into sacrificing essential parts of themselves in order to fit the previously created idea you have of them.

Do we not each inadvertently sacrifice our own being in order to fit into socially constructed definitions of normality? In fact, we do. This does not, however, give us any excuse to subject the experience of others to our own failed attempts at finding purpose. Indeed, relying on social constructs in order to conveniently avoid the truth of reality is the greatest tragedy to which man can subject themselves. And, while every individual has the God-given right to subject himself to any mode of existence, he is not given the right to subject anyone else to the same fate.

A man's attempt to fulfill himself with the company of others is not only irresponsible, it is also indicative of his relationship with himself. If you are not able to truly appreciate yourself, you will not be able to truly appreciate others. Maintaining relationships only to reap the benefit of not being alone is to assume that the only use of other humans is to grant you satisfaction. This prevents the true connection of otherwise completely individual beings, and that is surely a tragedy.

Destroy the predispositions you have of people, for they only lead to the further suffocation of the innate individuality given to every human being. Appreciate those in your life, and realize that they exist in a completely idiosyncratic timeline given to them by God, just as you do. Understanding that every human being in your life is infinitely changing with every moment will lead to the unequivocal appreciation of their soul by yours. Only then will you know what it means to love someone.