That Pink-Haired Boy From Annual Conference

That Pink-Haired Boy From Annual Conference

Thank's for carrying me around.
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I had always believed love was like the movies. You saw the other person and you just fell in love. It was like your brain and your heart were in sync for the first time in your life and everything was going to be amazing from that moment on. Little did I know that it was far from how love actually works. Almost four years ago I met this, I called him a kid because he had just finished middle school and I was going to be a junior, and little did I know the impact he would have on my life.

For four years, and only during Annual Conference weekend, we got to know each other. Sure, you would message me here or there, and I always wished you a happy birthday, but we didn't really talk away from that environment. But fromthe moment I met you I knew there was something different about you. I knew I wanted you in my life, I just didn't know why.

All four years you held me while I cried. Three of the four years you literally carried me (and I am so sorry cause I know one of those years I was a little heavier than the others). But this last year you were more than that cute and nerdy kid who had pink hair for Imagine No Malaria (and please know I tell EVERYONE about it). You were not only a fellow Diakonos, but you were a friend. My partner in crime. And the person I went to go get chocolate with.

Not only did our relationship expand that weekend, but I found out you were moving. And it was in that moment, standing there listening to you tell me you were moving to West Virginia, that I realized I couldn't let you walk out of my life. That was the moment that I knew you were more than just a friend, but someone that I knew I could count on.

I won't lie, you totally should have kissed me goodbye that day. Honestly, I can't believe you didn't. But as you left and I went back to the conference for the closing remarks since they were done really early, I knew I wasn't walking away from that weekend and not talking to you again for another year. In fact, I think I texted you like 20 minutes later.

Sure enough, here we are. Eight months later and you aren't just my friend any more. You are my best friend, my partner in crime, and the person I want to spend the rest of my life with. We've lived 14 hours apart, laughed, cried, texted, FaceTimed, talked on the phone, and driven five hours to see each other when you were close enough to do so. I call you crazy every day, because I am a handful to say the least. But you deal with it, and you always make me feel like the most important girl in the world.

Happy Eight Month Anniversary. You're such a goofball, but you're mine. And I couldn't ask for it any other way.

Cover Image Credit: Cherie Lynn Morse

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5 Perks Of Having A Long-Distance Best Friend

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Sometimes, people get annoyed when girls refer to multiple people as their "best friend," but they don't understand. We have different types of best friends. There's the going out together best friend, the see each other everyday best friend and the constant, low maintenance best friend.

While I'm lucky enough to have two out of the three at the same school as me, my "low maintenance" best friend goes to college six hours from Baton Rouge.

This type of friend is special because no matter how long you go without talking or seeing each other, you're always insanely close. Even though I miss her daily, having a long-distance best friend has its perks. Here are just a few of them...

1. Getting to see each other is a special event.

Sometimes when you see someone all the time, you take that person and their friendship for granted. When you don't get to see one of your favorite people very often, the times when you're together are truly appreciated.

2. You always have someone to give unbiased advice.

This person knows you best, but they probably don't know the people you're telling them about, so they can give you better advice than anyone else.

3. You always have someone to text and FaceTime.

While there may be hundreds of miles between you, they're also just a phone call away. You know they'll always be there for you even when they can't physically be there.

4. You can plan fun trips to visit each other.

When you can visit each other, you get to meet the people you've heard so much about and experience all the places they love. You get to have your own college experience and, sometimes, theirs, too.

5. You know they will always be a part of your life.

If you can survive going to school in different states, you've both proven that your friendship will last forever. You both care enough to make time for the other in the midst of exams, social events, and homework.

The long-distance best friend is a forever friend. While I wish I could see mine more, I wouldn't trade her for anything.

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4 Signs That You Might Be A Pushover In Your Relationship

There's a fine line between being considerate and overly-accommodating in a relationship, here are some signs to help you determine which side of the line you're on.

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While most of us consider ourselves independent individuals who are secure enough to maintain our own values while respecting someone else's, the difference between being flexible and completely bending to a romantic partner's will can be a slippery slope.

Just because you're in a relationship doesn't mean that everything the two of you disagree on suddenly disappears. There are times when you'll have to occasionally make concessions in order to reach a solution, but you should never be the one to relent every on every issue. If you're not sure about how you stand in your relationship here are few signs that you may be a dating pushover.

1. You let them set the pace of the relationship

It can be hard to know if things are moving at a normal speed, especially if you're new to relationships. If you feel like things are moving too quickly or like the two of you aren't on the same page and choose to ignore it because the other person is content with where you are, then you're not giving your own feelings enough consideration. A relationship is not just about one person's emotions, disregarding the ones you're unsure about to avoid making waves doesn't make you peacekeeper, it makes you a pushover.

2. Your lack of an opinion is replaced by theirs

It's okay not to have an opinion on every issue plaguing our society at the moment, but it's not okay to allow your partner to declare a stance for you. If you're having a conversation with friends and politics are being broached and your S/O prefaces their statement with "We think," -knowing darn well that you don't have anything to say about Trump's administration and they think he's the best thing since Netflix started streaming "Friends"- and you don't interject with your true feelings, then you've just let them know that their preferences are more important than yours.

3. You conform to the way they see you

People are multifaceted and complex beings. While Tinder may ask you to describe yourself by a handful of defining characteristics to better match you with a mate, you are more than just "quiet" and "indoorsy". If you find yourself with someone who reduces you to labels that complement them, chances are that the more you're around them the more you'll start to only identify yourself by those labels as well. When you conform to the 2-dimensional image that someone else has of you, you lose parts of your identity and become a social chameleon.

4. You alter your dreams to fit into theirs

It's exciting to picture your life with someone you care and are serious about. Of course, you have to make some configurations in order for things to work for the both of you, but there has to be an equal amount of compromise for it to be healthy. If you're working towards a degree that would open doors for you to meet new people and have new experiences but your S/O has dreams to get settled sooner rather than later and makes you feel like you're overreaching in your life, don't abandon your vision for something that would fit into theirs.

Being a pushover does not mean you're a weak person. I don't think anyone sets out with the intent to be a chameleon dater. Sometimes it happens gradually, two people start off in a relationship thinking that they're compatible and then one person grows more comfortable and their will and opinions turn out to be stronger than the other persons'. Other times, you just make a poor judgment call and try to make things work with someone that wasn't meant for you.

If you find yourself to be a pushover in your relationship and you're unhappy about it, you can change. Take some time to learn about yourself and figure out what you want and who you want to be. You can't choose someone who really loves you and values your mind if you don't know how you need to be loved and understood. Whether you need a to step away from the dating scene, have a conversation with your romantic partner or even take a break from them, understanding yourself will strengthen all of your relationships in the long run.

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