A Piece Of Advice To The Maybe-Bisexual

Bi popular demand (and considering the lack of articles covering this topic) here is a piece of advise for those of you who think you might be bisexual, but aren't sure.

So basically, you're positive that you're interested in members of the opposite-sex… but, you also think members of the same-sex are attractive… except you pause and begin to wonder if maybe… you’re just idolizing their looks?

Think about it this way:

Lady’s: would you rather have boobs like Sofia Vergara or would you rather motorboat Sofia Vergara?

& Men: do you want abs like Channing Tatum or do you just want to tightly hug him?

It’s okay if you want all of that.

Anyways, my general rule of thumb is- if you think your bi, you probably are. There's no need for "experimenting" to prove anything.

Just trust your gut instinct. I mean that’s what straight people do, right? No one ever questions whether he or she is heterosexual. So why is It so hard to figure out whether or not you’re queer?

Answer the following question honestly: Can you imagine being in a romantic relationship with both a guy and a girl?

If you answered yes and related to any of the above, you’re most likely bi. Which is great! You can’t lose if you play for both teams, right?

Buttt, just in-case you're still confused, here is a list of bisexualsubcategories developed by a dude named J.K. Little. Placing yourself in one of them may help you identify yourself a bit more precise.

Alternating Bisexuals - Usually monogamous. One relationship at a time: either exclusively straight or exclusively gay.

Concurrent relationship Bisexuals – Have one main partner- but engage in casual sex with members of the other gender.

Conditional Bisexuals – Gay for pay.

Emotional Bisexuals – Are intimate with one gender, while prefer using the other for sex only.

Integrated Bisexuals – Have at least 2 primary relationships, one with each gender.

Exploratory Bisexuals – These are the ones in the “experimenting” stage.

Hedonistic Bisexuals - Primarily straight or gay/lesbian but will switch purely for sexual pleasure.

Recreational Bisexuals – Engage in bisexual behavior only when intoxicated.

Isolated Bisexuals - Currently straight or gay/lesbian - but has had one off sexual encounter in the past which qualifies him or her as bisexual.

Latent Bisexuals - Have strong urges to try out bisexuality, but don't have the courage.

Motivational Bisexuals – Engages in bisexual behavior to satisfy a partner.

In conclusion, realizing you’re the B in LGBT is understandably confusing. This is due partially because of all the misconceptions surrounding the bisexual community, and partly because of ones own self-doubt. Get rid of the internalized homophobia and start listening to your own gut instinct. There are no prerequisites; you aren't required to "test the waters" before coming out. You come out when you feel like it because life's too short to waste it on stressing over self-acceptance.