Was It Really 'Right Person, Wrong Time' Or 'Wrong Person, Wrong Time'?

Was It Really 'Right Person, Wrong Time' Or 'Wrong Person, Wrong Time'?

The saying that gets me every single time.

We've all heard the saying "right person, wrong time" but what if we looked at it more like "wrong person, wrong time"? I'm telling you there's no "right" person in this world and if a person doesn't want to be with you they aren't going to be and if they do want to be with you, they will fight for you and they will fight to be with you.

Don't let someone tell you it's just the wrong time because that means they are just the wrong person.

Sure, this seems harsh, but truly you've been thinking about it in the back of your head.

Think about it some more, think about how when you try with this person they always say they aren't ready, guess what? Nobody's ever completely ready for something and if you keep on waiting you'll be waiting your whole life. Stop making excuses for the people that don't want to be with you because nobody deserves that.

Why would we make excuses for these people? Because our heart wants them or because we think we need them or because we want them? No, don't make excuses for people that can't decide what they want because in the end you'll be hurt. You may think you're hurting now, but trust me it's for the best.

Stop living your life waiting for the "right person at the right time."

Why live your life for what's "right" when it could be the one person that you actually want? When you do this you're it's just like you're living for the weekend or the summer and you'll be waiting your whole life to be happy.

So, why do we say "right person, wrong time" if it's not actually something we should listen to? Well, we don't like to think that people don't want to be with us, we like to feel accepted and loved and if that person makes you feel that way, then you're more likely to make excuses for them. Also, if it's someone we really want, but they say they can't do it because of X, Y, or Z, then we just take it and we think they'll come back.

But I can tell you the worst thing you can do is wait for a person to come around because nine times out of 10, you'll end up disappointed.

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Why You Should Stop Chasing Him

You deserve better.

They say “the thrill of the chase" makes someone more enticing. There's just something about wanting something you can't have that drives you crazy (in a good way). There is never a dull moment. Pursuing him is a challenge. Nothing comes easily. What's the fun in that anyway?

I'm going to tell you this: stop chasing him. Stop forgiving him when he forgets to answer your text messages and phone calls. Stop being the one to always make plans. Stop letting him bail on you. Stop waiting around for him. Stop being lied to. Stop making excuses when he doesn't make time for you. There is a difference between someone who is “hard to get" and a flat out jerk who doesn't give you the time of day. Stop letting him use you.

You deserve to be with someone who makes you fall asleep every night in the middle of texting him because neither of you want the conversation to end. You deserve someone who plans dates for the two of you. You deserve someone who asks you to hang out before midnight. You deserve someone who wants to spend time with you just as much as you do with them. You deserve someone who insists on paying for your ice cream. You deserve someone who won't deceive you. You deserve someone who is straightforward. You deserve attention. You deserve affection. You deserve a partnership that is mutual, not one-sided. You deserve to be chased.

You are better than 3 a.m. “Hey" texts. You are better than a night spent watching a movie just to fool around. You are better than trying to decode his vague messages. You are better than his shadiness. You are better than mind games. You are better than being ignored.

If you have to chase him, he's not worth it. Don't settle for someone who makes you beg for his attention. If he is genuinely interested in getting to know you, he will put in the effort. A relationship where your feelings are reciprocated is far more rewarding than one where you constantly feel like you have to drag him along.

Change your mentality. Become more independent. Be confident, be bold. Find happiness in being alone. Don't waste your time pathetically chasing after someone who doesn't feel the same, but doesn't have the heart or the courage to tell you so. Your self-confidence and positivity will make you radiant, and eventually, you will attract the kind of guy who is mature enough to not mess with your head.

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