To That Person Who Keeps Going Back To An Unhealthy Relationship

To That Person Who Keeps Going Back To An Unhealthy Relationship

Everyone has someone out there, but know that you deserve better than an unhealthy relationship.
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Why do you continue to go back to someone who is no good for you? You feel worthless. You feel hopeless. You get told you do everything wrong. That you aren’t good enough.

You don’t get cared for every day. You get ignored. You get yelled at. You are constantly in a fight.

Disagreements and not receiving attention has become the norm to you. You feel sadness. You get the short end of the stick. You put a halt on your daily life to please someone who couldn’t care less about you. You are getting abused.



There are days that are good, yes. But there are more bad days than good. Your friends don’t approve of the relationship. Your family even admits that they don’t like it. So why do you go back?

Close ones see it in your everyday activity. The way you act, react and handle situations. They can tell that you’ve been hurt and that you’re still hurting. Yet you still go back.

No one understands why you put yourself in this situation, but I just want to reassure you of your worth.

Your life should exemplify happiness. You should not feel held back by any means. You should be yourself.

You are worthy. Worthy of a healthy relationship. Worthy of happiness. Worthy of being accepted. Worthy of being loved unconditionally. Worthy of being loved for being yourself, not for being a slave to the demon. You are worth more than the feeling of wanting to die than to live.

Healthy relationships are a rarity in our society nowadays, and that is just sad. People feel that being a people pleaser is what a relationship is. NO. You come first. If you have not achieved happiness on your own, you should not be in a relationship hoping to reach it.

Happiness and knowing what you deserve is where you should begin. Stop going back to the abuse.


Establish a self-confidence that the relationship cannot destroy. Establish a self-esteem that makes you proud of who you are. Establish yourself as a person, what you believe in, your stance on certain aspects of life, and a routine that you enjoy.

Stop returning to the person who makes you feel less. Because you are more. Rise above it. It will be hard to break the chain of constantly having them there. But wouldn’t you like too much rather be on a pedestal than in the drain?

You can do it. Everyone has someone out there. But know that you deserve better than an unhealthy relationship. Seek in the right direction by starting with bettering yourself, and they will flock to you.

And you will experience the happiness you’ve been wanting and a life of unforgettable memories. It’s in your reach. Have faith in yourself.

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I'd Rather Be Single Than Settle: Here Is Why Being Picky Is Okay.

They're on their best behavior when you're dating.
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Dating nowadays described in one word: annoying. What's even more annoying? when people tell you that you're being too "picky" when it comes to dating. Yes, from an outside perspective sometimes that's exactly what it looks like; however, when looking at it from my perspective it all makes sense. I've heard it all, "He was cute, why didn't you like him?" "You didn't even give him a chance!" "You pay too much attention to the little things!"

What people don't understand is that it's OKAY to be picky when it comes to guys. For some reason, girls in college freak out and think they're supposed to have a boyfriend by now, be engaged by the time they graduate, etc. It's all a little ridiculous; however, I refuse to put myself on a time table such as this due to the fact that these girls who feel this way are left with no choice but to overlook the things in guys that they shouldn't be overlooking, they're settling and this is something that I refuse to do.

So this leaves the big question: What am I waiting for?

Well, I'm waiting for a guy who...

1. Wants to know my friends.

Blessed doesn't even begin to describe how lucky I am to have the friends that I do. I want a guy who can hang out with my friends. If a guy makes an effort to impress your friends then that says a lot about him and how he feels about you. This not only shows that he cares about you but he cares about the people in your life as well. Someone should be happy to see you happy and your friends contribute to that happiness, therefore, they should be nothing more than supportive and caring towards you and your friendships.

2. Actually, cares to get to know me.

Although this is a very broad statement, this is the most important one. A guy should want to know all about you. He should want to know your favorite movie, favorite ice cream flavor, favorite Netflix series, etc. Often, (the guys I get stuck on dates with) love to talk about themselves: they would rather tell you about what workout they did yesterday, what their job is, and what they like to do rather than get to know you.

This is something easy to spot on the first date, so although they may be "cute," you should probably drop them if you leave your date and can recite everything about their life since the day they were born, yet they didn't catch what your last name was.

3. How they talk about other women.

THIS IS CRUCIAL FOR FINDING A NICE GUY. It does not matter who they're talking about, if they call their ex-girlfriend crazy we all know she probably isn't and if she is it's probably their fault. If they talk bad about their mom, let's be honest, if they're disrespecting their mother they're not going to respect you either. If they mention girl's physical appearances when describing them. For example, "yeah, I think our waitress is that blonde chick with the big boobs." Well if that doesn't hint they're a complete f* boy then I don't know what else to tell you. And most importantly calling other women "bitches" that's just disrespectful.

Needless to say, if his conversations are similar to ones you'd hear in a frat house, ditch him.

4. Phone etiquette.

If he can't put his phone down long enough to take you to dinner then he doesn't deserve for you to be sitting across from him. If a guy is serious about you he's going to give you his undivided attention and he's going to do whatever it takes to impress you and checking snapchat on a date is not impressive. Also, notice if his phone is facedown, then there's most likely a reason for it. He doesn't trust who or what could pop up on there and he clearly doesn't want you seeing. Although I'm not particularly interested in what's popping up on their phones, putting them face down says more about the guy than you think it does.

To reiterate, it's okay to be picky ladies, you're young, there's no rush. Remember these tips next time you're on a date or seeing someone, and keep in mind: they're on their best behavior when you're dating. Then ask yourself, what will they be like when they're comfortable? Years down the road? Is this what I really want? If you ask yourself these questions you might be down the same road I have stumbled upon, being too picky.. and that's better than settling. :)

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Leave Your Ex Alone

They don't want to bother with you, so stop bothering them.

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It's okay to be friends with your ex-boyfriend/girlfriend, but you can never be friends immediately after the break-up or else the friendship will fail. To be someone's friend you must be able to support them and love them. Relationships almost never end on good terms, so how can you be truly supportive to the person that broke you? You can't.

You both need time to heal and love yourselves again without the emotional support that you both have been leaning on for so long."You can't fix yourself while holding on to the person that broke you." -r.h.sin. Remember that.

Also, please for the sake of all your friends, followers, and your self-dignity, keep your relationship off social media. I'm not saying don't post want you to want to post, but when your profile has turned into a hate blog for your ex, I think it's time quit. Not only does constantly posting negative things about your ex make you look bad, but it also makes the healing process go even slower and possibly ruin the chances of friendship again.

And if you truly believe that sending a text that is close to the length of 400 words to your ex explaining once again that you are completely over them will make them change their minds then go off, but know it most likely won't work. Then didn't care the first time, they won't care the seventh time.

So basically, be respectful and be kind to your ex. No matter how messed upshot they did was and no matter how badly that hurt you, realize that treating them terrible back solves nothing and only reflects badly on you. You can't change how people treat you, but you can choose how to react.

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