Do you find yourself often wondering if you're selfish, self-absorbed, or not empathetic enough for those around you? If so, you might be one of those people who are always trying to put themselves first. Some people might try and make this seem like a bad thing, but there are many perks to putting yourself first. But just like anything else, it has its downfalls. In the times when it seems like maybe you should change this about yourself, just think about these things.
1. Never, ever apologize for loving yourself.
You are perfectly and beautifully made, and you should always be able to express the love you have for yourself. There are going to be people in your life that are offended by your strength, but never let that weaken you. You’ll see your friends in relationships, and you’re gonna ask yourself what’s wrong with you. But I’m here to tell you that nothing is wrong with you. People may find your independence intimidating, but the person who's willing to fight to tear down those walls is the one you want to be with. Be with someone who wants to see you succeed just as much as you do.
2. Never feel selfish.
Putting yourself first is harder than people realize. Keeping open opportunities in your life means passing up on other things, like relationships. You are young and totally allowed to put yourself first. In a world so obsessed with growing up, be young. You are not selfish. You are not a prude. You are not what they call you, yet I can say that you are strong and independent.
3. Don’t let your fear stop you.
There are going to be times when you’re going to be so afraid of the future. Times will come that will be harder than you’ll ever imagine, and it’ll seem like you’re facing it all alone. But there are so many people here for you. Never let the fear of failure keep you from trying your hardest. We are made up of the opportunities we take, not the ones we don’t. So, keep your chin up, and keep on keeping on, girl.
4. Never let anyone dull your sparkle.
There are going to be people who are intimidated by your fierceness. Don’t let them tear you down. Those people aren't the ones who are going to live your life 20 years down the road. If your goal is to educate yourself, travel or ultimately just be happy, don’t let them knock you away from that. One day you’ll look back and see that those people are nothing compared to the life you created for yourself.
5. Speak up.
Let the world quake by the sound of your powerful voice. You are so capable of great things. By putting yourself first, you have given yourself the ability to focus on who you are and who you want to become. Share that voice you have with the world. Don't be afraid to stand up and say what's on your mind, even if you're standing alone. I bet people will appreciate your courage.
6. Don't be afraid to let people in.
Just because you're putting yourself first doesn't mean that you can't put others in your life. It can sometimes seem difficult to balance your own success and caring for others, but what has ever been wrong with bringing others up with you? Make smart decisions on who you want to be, and make sure those around you hold those same standards. Ultimately, going through life alone is... well, lonely. Let others in and let them help lift you up to who you want to be.
