It is Perfectly OK To Be Alone Because It Makes You Realize How Strong You Really Are

It is Perfectly OK To Be Alone Because It Makes You Realize How Strong You Really Are

That's when you will find your true self.
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It is not the end of the world if your "perfect" relationship ends. It is perfectly okay to be independent and not have a boyfriend or girlfriend. For me just getting out of a relationship that I loved was one of the hardest things to do especially with the semester ending. I expected so much for this summer and then he ended it before it could even begin. Every day since we broke up I have been figuring out how strong of a person I really am.

You are STRONG.

Whether you think so or not, you are strong. I did not realize how strong I was until I started doing things to better myself. Getting out of a year-long relationship I thought it was the end of the world. I thought I lost everything, but in reality, I was just sad because now I was going to be "alone" for the first time in over a year.

No one is weak for missing their ex-significant other. It takes time to move on, but the key is to actually let yourself move on. It is not about finding someone else, it is about knowing who you are as a person and letting go and being your strong, independent self.

If someone else comes along, it wasn't meant to be.

If your last relationship did not end badly like mine it can cause confusion. My ex and I had a very healthy relationship, but he was not ready to give me the time I needed. With this being said I am in no way looking for another relationship right now.

I need to focus on myself and making myself happy before I start anything up again. If someone happens to come along so be it, that just means my last relationship was not meant to be. If he comes back to me, then I know he is the one.

Distract yourself.

If you are the type of person who only has a few best friends like me then distractions are key. Sometimes you won't always have your friends around for whatever reason and you need to find things you love to do. For me, that is my new internship this summer. I am going to be working with kids all day and I honestly am thrilled.

Every day I will be able to distract myself from any doubts I might have about myself and my last relationship. If you do not have a job you love, then go out and find something you do love. You can start running, doing yoga or just going on hikes. Sometimes just staying in and watching Netflix is enough. The key is to not think about what something could be. Live in the now and keep your head up.

You are never actually alone.

No matter how alone you may feel you are never really alone. You have so many people who love and cherish you whether that be your family or your friends. Even that girl or guy you happened to talk to twice in class or worked on a group project with would be there for you if you needed something.

It is surprising how good some people are and it's okay to look to them for comfort. Ever since my last relationship ended I have called my mom every day and have been talking to my girl-friends a lot more. It is the time where I need them most and I cannot thank them enough for always being there for me.

Even on your darkest days, there will always be light. Do not let your head down. It is okay to be on your own. You are a strong independent person who deserves the best. Whatever the world throws at you take it in with confidence. Show the world who you really are, but most importantly show yourself who you really are.

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An Open Letter To My Boyfriend's Mom

A simple thank you is not enough.
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Your son and I have been dating a while now and I just wanted to thank you for everything.

Wow, where do I start? Ever since the day your son brought me into your home you have shown me nothing but kindness. I have not one negative thought about you and I am truly thankful for that. I first and foremost want to thank you for welcoming me with open arms. There are horror stories of mothers resenting their son's girlfriends and I am blessed there is no resentment or harsh feelings.

Thank you for treating me like one of your children, with so much love but knowing exactly when to tease me.

Thank you for sticking up for me when your son teases me, even though I know it’s all in good fun it's always comforting knowing you have someone by your side.

Thank you for raising a man who respects women and knows how to take responsibility of mistakes and not a boy who is immature and doesn’t take responsibility.

Thank you for always including me in family affairs, I may not be blood family but you do everything you can to make sure I feel like I am.

Thank you for letting me make memories with your family.

There is nothing I value more in this world then memories with friends and family and I am thankful you want and are willing to include me in yours. I have so much to thank you for my thoughts keep running together.

The most important thing I have to thank you for is for trusting me with your son. I know how precious and valuable he is and I won't break his heart. I will do everything I can to make him happy. This means more than you could ever imagine and I promise I will never break your trust.

The second most important thing I must thank you for is for accepting me for who I am. Never have you ever wished I looked like another girl or acted like another girl. You simply love and care for me and that’s all I could ever ask. Every person in this world is a unique different person and understanding that means a lot.

The third most important thing I must thank you is teaching me how to one day in the future treat a potential girlfriend that I may interact with as a mother. I am not a mother, but I one day plan to be. If I ever have a son it is because of how you treated me that I am able to be a humble loving mother to this new face that could one day walk into my door. How you have treated me has taught me how I should one day be in the future and I thank you for that.

This may seem all over the place but that’s how my brain gets when I try and thank you for everything you have done for me. It’s all so much and even the little things are so important so I promise my scattered thoughts are all with good intentions and not meant to bombard you. I just want to get the idea across to you that you are important and special to me and everything you do does not go unnoticed.

Sincerely,

Your Son’s Girlfriend

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'Hell No' And 19 Other Responses When Asking College Students How They Felt About Friends Dating Their Siblings

I mean it worked in "The Kissing Booth."

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Entering a new relationship can be awkward at first, but what if your new boyfriend/girlfriend is your friends sibling?

Um, hello, double awkward.

Who breaks the news to them? What happens if you guys don't last? Is dating a friends sibling something that should even happen in the first place? Well, I wanted to get to the bottom of it, so I asked 20 college students two simple questions, "How do you feel about dating a friend's sibling or your friend's dating your sibling?" and "Would you stop being friends with somebody if they started dating your sibling?" and here's what they had to say.

1. "It depends on the friend." - 23, Male

He also said that he wouldn't stop being friends with somebody if they started dating their sibling.

2. "I honestly wouldn't care, I would do it." - 22, Female

She would remain friends with somebody if they started dating her sibling.

3. "Hell no, this shouldn't happen." - 21, Female

She said she definitely would drop her friend if this were to ever happen.

4. "I think that if it makes them happy than it's fine, but when they start neglecting you instead of hanging out it can be bad. Especially, if one of them breaks up with the other." - 23, Female

She wouldn't stop being friends with somebody if they dated her sibling, and she also said that she would date a friends sibling.

5. "Very opposed if it was a close friend because it could ruin the friendship." - 21, Female

She would drop her friend if this ever happened.

6. "I wouldn't mind as long as I knew their true intentions." - 19, Male

He would stay friends with somebody if this ever happened.

7. "I don't care." - 20, Female

Would stay friends with somebody.

8. "I would hate that, but if they're both happy I feel like I would need to support them. My main concern is if they broke up, I feel like I would have to choose sides." - 21, Female

She said either way it's awkward but she would remain friends with them.

9. "I think that it's fine as long as the friend doesn't shut me out." - 22, Female

She said that she would love them both regardless.

10. "Uncomfortable." - 20, Male

Okay fair enough considering his siblings are minors and his friends are not. But yes, he definitely would stop being friends with somebody if this ever happened.

11. "I don't have siblings, but I don't think that I would mind. Love is love, don't be a hater." -18, Female

She would date a friends sibling and stay friends with somebody if they dated her sibling, (if she had any).

12. "My siblings are younger than me so somebody better have a jail cell waiting for me." - 20, Male

Yet, he would still be friends with them even if this happened..

13. "I'm not okay with it." - 22, Female

Would still remain friends wit somebody if this were to happen though.

14. "I'm a lot older than them, so it's a little weird." - 27, Female

She also said that she would date a friends sibling and remain friends with somebody if they ever dated her sibling.

15. "I'm not really that weirded out as long as it didn't impact our friendship. I personally don't find anything wrong with it" -18, Female

She too said that she would date a friends sibling and remain friends with somebody if they ever dated her sibling.

16. "My sister is like 31 so that's weird. I'm not for it but I'm not against it either." -18, Female

She wouldn't date any of her friends siblings but would remain friends with somebody if they dated hers.

17. "It was bound to happen. It just doesn't matter to me personally. " - 22, Female

She also said love is love, and that she would date one of her friends siblings and stay friends if somebody dated hers.

18. "Very awkward. The risk of losing them is too high." - 21, Female

Wouldn't personally date a friends sibling but would keep the friendship if somebody dated hers.

19. "Annoyed. Your "friend" is going to leave you high and dry for your brother/sibling." - 23, Female

Would never date a friends sibling and would drop somebody if they dated hers.

20. "I'd be a bit weirded out at first but that wouldn't negate our friendship." - 25, Male

Would remain friends if one of his friends started dating his sister and is dating his sisters best friend/soul sister.

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