How People Perceive You Doesn't Define Who You Are

How People Perceive You Doesn't Define Who You Are, It Defines Who They Are

People see what they want to see and what people want to see never has anything to do with the truth.


One of the hardest pills I've ever had to swallow was that people's opinions of me truly don't matter and they never will. This was hard for me because I have always been obsessed with how people viewed me. I couldn't stand the thought of someone not liking me, and if someone didn't like me, I did everything I could to try and change their tune. I honestly believed that if someone thought I was a bad person, then that meant I was a bad person. Or, vice versa.

I based my self-worth on how other people viewed me. I mean, to me, it made sense. How could I be a good person if other people didn't view me that way? How could I be pretty? Or, funny? I could say that I was a good person, or that I was pretty or funny, but if I didn't have any evidence, and by evidence, I mean people's opinions, then it was all futile.

But then one day, kind of like a meteor just dropped out of the sky, I realized something: people see what they want to see and what people want to see never has anything to do with the truth.

Think about that for a minute. Have you ever formed an opinion on someone and then just believed that it was the truth no matter what happened, that opinion never wavered? We've all done it. Maybe it was a significant other and the thought of them being someone other than who they were in your head was too much to handle. Or, maybe it was someone that you just didn't like, whether it was because of jealousy or something else. It's human nature. We judge people to feel better about ourselves, even when preaching the falters of being judgemental.

Who you are isn't who other people say that you are. It doesn't matter what your intentions are, because if someone perceives you the wrong way, your intentions aren't going to matter. You can explain who you are or what kind of person you are until your blue in the face and someone people just don't care. That's the truth. Sometimes you just have to take a step back and realize that people are going to think what they want about you.

At the end of the day, the only person who you have to live for is yourself. The only person's opinion of you that matters is yours. If you're happy with who you are, own it. If there is something that you think you can improve on or need to change, don't wait for someone else to give you the okay. People are always going to find something wrong with you and you'll make yourself crazy if you try to meet the demands of every person you come in contact with. Be unapologetically you and the people who accept you for that are the only people who are worth being in your life.

We are who we are, and I think that's beautiful.

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To The Girl Who Isn't Graduating On Time, It Won't Feel Any Less Amazing When You Do

Graduating is something to be proud of no matter how long it takes you.


To the girl who isn't graduating college "on time,"

I promise, you will get there eventually, and you will walk across that graduation stage with the biggest smile on your face.

You may have a different journey than the people you grew up with, and that is OKAY. You may have some twists and turns along the way, a few too many major changes, a life change, you may have taken most of a semester off to try to figure your life out, and you're doing the best you can.

Your family and your friends don't think less of you or your accomplishments, they are proud of your determination to get your degree.

They are proud of the woman you are becoming. They don't think of you as a failure or as someone any less awesome than you are. You're getting your degree, you're making moves towards your dreams and the life that you have always wanted, so please stop beating yourself up while you see people graduating college on time and getting a job or buying a car.

Your time will come, you just keep doing what you need to do in order to get on that graduation stage.

Your path is set out for you, and you will get there with time but also with patience. The place you're at right now is where you are supposed to be. You are going to thrive and you are going to be the best version of you when you graduate and start looking for a company that you will be proud to work for. Don't look on social media and feel less than, because at least you're still working towards your degree that you are finally passionate about. You will be prepared. You will be ready once the time comes and you cross the stage, move away, and start your journey in whatever field you're going into.

Don't question yourself, and be confident in your abilities.

With love,

A girl who isn't graduating on time

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Goodbye School, Hello Real World

I'm ready for ya!


It's starting to hit me.

I've been in school, year after year, since kindergarten. Maybe even pre-school!

Now, I'm about to graduate with my bachelors in communication and I couldn't be more proud of myself. I'll say it. I often sugarcoat it or suppress it but d*mn it. I'm going to applaud myself. It was hard work. It took a lot of motivation, determination, (caffeine), and willpower to get to where I am today. I worked my ass off.

That being said, I can't help but think... What is life without due dates? What is life like without scrambling to turn in an assignment that's due at 11:59 PM? What is life like with actual sleep? Sleep? I don't know her.

Like I keep telling my boyfriend and my parents, I don't have it all figured out. At least not right now. But I will, and I'm in no rush to land my dream job right now. If anything, I want to take a year to myself. I want to travel. I want to sleep in if I d*mn well please! I want to read as many books as I want. I want to write till my fingers fall off (OK, maybe not that).

You get the jist.

I'm free. I can do and be whatever I want. And you know what? That's terrifying.

I'm lost. I've followed this structure for so long. Now what?

I don't have all the answers yet. But for now, at least right at this very moment, I'm so thankful to have been able to receive such an amazing education. And to be able to say I'm graduating with my bachelors in communication at 21 is an accomplishment in itself.

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