25 People You Meet On Formal

25 People You Meet On Formal

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Getting asked on formal is basically equivalent to getting an invite into an entirely different world. One might ask, "What's so crazy about a formal?" But honestly, what isn't crazy about it? At formal, anything is possible. You don't just take a bus to a different city where you all run around like 9-year-olds at Disney World. I'm not saying that isn't what happens, but it's definitely much more than that. Besides the thrill of bus rides and average hotels, the trip is special because of the friends and strangers you spend your time with. Although you don't decide who else will be joining you, you can expect to be on the trip with any and every kind of person. Whether they're your friends, strangers, your roommates, your date, or even you, here are the 25 people that you should expect to encounter on formal:


1) The girl who is never with her date.

2) The couple that is always fighting.

3) The girl who always runs off somewhere.

4) The one who is always sober.

5) The one who is never sober.

5) The girl who knows every single brother.

6) The friend who encourages you to make bad decisions.

7) The girl who is always crying.

8) The girl who spends the entire trip trying to take the perfect Instagram.

9) The girl who can't get along with anyone.

10) The guy who hits on everyone's date besides his own.

11) The girl who doubles as a mom and takes care of everyone.

12) The girl who has to Snapchat everything.

13) The friend who is ready to party at 10 AM.

14) The one who is always eating.

15) The one who will fall asleep anywhere (someone's bed, the grass, a bench).

16) The one who doesn't go here.

17) The guy who blows way too much money.

18) The girl who can't even survive the bus ride.

19) The one who wastes the entire trip in bed doing nothing.

20) The chill and quiet guy that is the life of the party after one drink.


21) The girl that instantly becomes your best friend.

23) The girl who managed to get her entire friend group dates.

24) The guy that sees every weird thing you did all weekend.

24) The girl that bums off of everyone.

25) The guys that split the cost instead of bringing dates.

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How Snapchat Determines Your Best Friends. Literally

How much do you decide who your friends are?
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What do your Snapchat best friends say about you? Or, put in a less sensationalist/more accurate way: what does your Snapchat best friends list do to you?

I’ll be the first to admit I do not know how Snapchat works. I hope I’m not alone in saying I find myself confused when an individual can send me one or two snaps on a certain day, and suddenly there they are smack on my best friends list. I didn’t even send one back! I just added this person as a friend! There are plenty of other people I Snapchat more frequently—why aren’t they on my best friends list now?

Snapchat’s frequently asked questions section doesn’t help. According to them, our best friends are picked by a “magical algorithm.” OK, aside from sounding like my explanation of just about every mathematical rule I don’t understand, what does this mean? Well, Snapchat doesn’t elaborate. That’s all we are given. The way our “best friends” are picked is left a mystery. Oh well, it’s not like it’s that big of a deal, right? This is just a social media site's way of making it easier to use their app. This “magical algorithm” can’t have any tangible repercussions, can it? Well, unoriginal rhetorical questions you could very well find in a fifth grader's essay, I wouldn’t be writing this article if I thought so.

Let’s return to the example earlier. Say my Snapchat best friends list consists of: 1) Friend A, 2) Friend B, and 3) Friend D (betcha thought it would be C. Gotta keep ya awake). I add Friend C one day. S/he sends me two snaps that day. Suddenly, Friend D has been replaced by Friend C on my best friends list! No big deal, right? It’s not like that actually means this new Friend C is a better friend to me than Friend D, does it? (Shoot, told myself I was done with the poorly written rhetorical questions.) Of course, it doesn’t. However, consider what a Snapchat best friend means. Throughout my day, I’ll happen to see a variety of things I feel are worth a Snapchat. A stray cat, Batman riding around on a bicycle, or maybe someone wrote “butts” on the white board without the professor noticing. I’ll take a quick snap, send it to a select few people, and continue on my day. But who are those select few people? Snapchat’s “thing” is quick, easy photo sharing. I’m going to share it to the people who are quickest and easiest to send it to: my “best friends.” This is when Snapchat’s “magical algorithm” takes a very real roll in my social life.

Maybe Friend D’s (remember this is the friend that got unjustly booted from the esteemed realm of my Snapchat best friends list) name starts with an "S." Let’s be honest. Unless this is some Snapsterpiece (wow, I love that word) that I spent several minutes doodling on, I will not deem it worth my time to scroll down to the dark trenches of the alphabet just to let my Friend D know that the Bagel Bites I bought only have seven instead of eight. (Who am I kidding? That is a huge deal that deserves a letter to Ore Ida and a Facebook post.) Instead, I will simply click all of my best friends and continue walking to class. Now, Friend C, the wrongful heir to Friend D’s spot, responds to my snap. I respond to his/her’s, and so on and so forth. Before I know it, I’m snapping Friend C several times a day, we talk more than usual. S/he is now one of my better friends.

This is not so farfetched, in fact, I can assure you it has happened to me. This is a fantastic example of technology affecting my social life in ways that I have no control over! A random “magical algorithm” has now just helped me lose contact with one of my friends while forming a new friendship with someone else.

Snapchat isn’t the only place I see this happening. I know for a fact my interest in texting someone depends heavily on whether or not they have an iPhone. If I’m texting in class, my dorm, or some other appropriate place to text, I am much quicker to respond, likely to type longer responses if I can text via laptop, which is only possible to do with someone who is also using a Mac product. At a time in my life where some of my closest old relationships are being limited to text, this has a scarily large impact.

I don’t think this is bad. Well, maybe I think this is bad. I’m starting to lose control over who my closest friends are. Now, I know all this could be solved by simply a few extra seconds or so of effort but…ugh...ya know?

While I’m not entirely sure if this is good or bad, one this is for sure: it is incredibly interesting. What does this mean for the future? Eventually, will technology and its “magical algorithms” simply handle our entire social life for us? Are social skills on their way to extinction? Wow, an anxiety riddled awkward person can only dream.

(Also, I apologize about all the parentheses; I dunno what got into me.)

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10 Things You Need To Know If Your Parents Are Divorced, Speaking From Experience

Divorce is just another trial in life that test your patience, meekness, and strength.
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Before you read any further, you need to know that I speak from my own experience. Divorce is a toxic, devastating action that changes everyone’s life.

There is no way for me to know exactly what you are going through, make your own judgments about this article. This is not a list of if you do this, then you will get this exact result. Divorce makes you grow as a person and with growth comes trial and error.

There are many different scenarios and circumstances that occur because of divorce, and my circumstance is most likely different from yours. I wanted to share my point of view because some of these ideas have taken me years to be OK with and to learn.

I want you to know that divorce makes us feel emotions that we have never felt. It’s uncomfortable, unfamiliar, and it makes you question everything in life. Here are 10 things that I believe you need to grasp in order to heal:

1. You Don’t Have To Continue Your Relationship With Toxic Parents

Maybe no one has ever told you this before, but hear me out. This is not an excuse for you to give up on your parents. If one or both of your parents is mentally, physically, or verbally abusive it is OK to allow separation. With that being said, I don’t think you should separate yourself forever. For me, I would separate myself for a time period and then when I recovered and felt strong enough, I would nurture the relationship. This was on-going for several years and took a ton of forgiveness. Do not just simply give up after one of your parents makes a mistake, but I am a firm believer that once you have done everything in your power to make things right, then you can love them from a distance.

2. But You Have To Respect Both Parents

Whatever your circumstance is, you still need respect both parents. This is something my wonderful mom taught me. I have a very kind personality, but it would have been easy for me to raise my voice at my dad. It would have been easy to hate him. It would have been even easier for me to tell everyone around me just what a terrible father he was, but none of that would have been right. I had to learn to deal with the pain, without taking it out on the one that caused it. I still said yes sir. I still prayed for him. I still told him ‘Happy Father’s Day’ even when I didn’t feel like it. And today, when I have to see him at family events, I don’t stand in the corner reminding myself of negative things about him. I say hi when he speaks, knowing that I have to make an effort to be respectful. I have learned that even if I don’t like someone, it doesn’t give me an excuse to be rude and disrespectful.

3. You Need To Let Go Of The Hate And The Blame

I have learned that this is not the easiest thing in the world. If I could give you one piece of single advice that will make all of the hate and the resentment go away: Pray for them. It works every time. If you don’t pray or don’t know who Jesus is, then I have no clue how to tell you to heal. I wouldn’t have made it without Jesus, so that’s what you need. You need a whole lot of Jesus if you want to make it through something as devastating as divorce. When I was finally ready to let go of the blame and the anger, I started asking Jesus to let me see the person that hurt me as He would see them. Time, prayer, and the removal of pride allowed me to let go of the things that held me in bondage.

4. Divorce Never Goes Away

Surprise! This is the thing I hate most about divorce. My parents got divorced almost 10 years ago and we still have to deal with the rippling effect of divorce. You are reminded of your parents divorce during major events in life, such as graduations, birthday parties, weddings, birth of children, and so much more. That’s why it is so important to heal now, rather than later. Divorce will always be around, so you need to heal what’s broken in order to experience freedom in your life now. If you don’t heal now, then these events that are made to be special will always reopen the wounds from divorce and make these major events dreadful.

5. If Possible, You Need To Have A Relationship With Both Parents

I have watched too many kids give up on their parents after ONE mistake. I will never understand this. If people gave up on me after one mistake, then I wouldn’t have anyone in my corner. When your parents start making a cycle of toxic choices, it is then that I believe it’s OK to love them from a distance. However, if you are not speaking to your parent because of something they did ten years ago or because of whispers of lies from the other parent, then you my friend, are in the wrong. I would give anything to have a healthy relationship with both parents.

6. Remember That You Are Still The Child, No Matter What

I believe this is something that you can remind your parents. It doesn't matter if you are 30 or 15, you are still the child. Pick and choose what you want to carry, because you weren’t meant to carry the weight of your parent’s choices. You still have to be respectful, but if you feel the need to vent and tell your parents everything you are feeling then it’s OK. You do not have to have it all together just because you are an adult and you are supposed to be mature. Divorce affects a 30-year-old just as much as it affects a 15-year-old.

7. You Don’t Have To Feel Guilty For Your Pain

I remember that I used to feel guilty for acting that way I did. I would cry multiple times and I always felt like I wasn’t being strong enough. I would look at other kids that had divorced parents and it looked as if the divorce had no effect on them. From the outside, they always made divorce seem so normal, like it didn’t hurt. I started to feel guilty for carrying around the pain of divorce. I thought maybe I was being dramatic and it wasn't supposed to hurt that badly. I felt weak, and then guilty for feeling weak. I can now stand here and tell you that yes, divorce is literally the worse thing I have gone through. So, if you feel that way, it’s normal. Don’t feel guilty for your pain. It does not make you weak.

8. It Is Not Your Fault

Cry, yell, rant, do whatever you have to do, but do not ever feel like the divorce is your fault! The truth is it’s actually the opposite. Your parents didn’t get a divorce because of you, but they did stay together because of you. If your parents wanted to get a divorce because you were the one causing issues then they would not divorce their spouse. They would find a way to divorce you and that is unlikely.

9. It’s OK To Be Angry, Hurt, Confused, etc. But Don’t Stay There

If your anger keeps you from living your life, then that is not OK. It’s OK to not be OK, but do not stay there. I can’t give an exact time period of how long you should grieve, because everyone takes different amounts of time to heal. You have to know when it is time for you to move on.

10. At The End Of The Day, They Are Your Parents

As I said in the beginning I am speaking from my own experience. You have been given your own judgements and emotions, so do what you think is best. In doing so, the worse thing you could do during a divorce is to forget your standards. The scary thing about divorce is that it somehow opens the door for us to throw our moral compass out the window. Don’t get caught up in the

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