The Right People Make All The Difference

Surrounding Yourself With People Who Build You Up Makes All The Difference

Life's too short to waste it on the wrong people.


They say that life isn't worthwhile if you don't have people to share it with. And that couldn't be truer. The people who you have in your life should be there to build you up, not tear you down. When you surround yourself with those who bring distress or make you upset, it is only hindering your experiences.

Throughout my life, I changed friend groups every so often. I have always been the type of person who expected a lot, sometimes too much, from my friends. But as I've gotten older, I've begun to realize this isn't a bad thing. It reinforces my self-worth and makes me acknowledge what it is that I deserve. And you know what, I deserve to have friends and relationships in which I get back every ounce that I give. And it took me way too long to realize that.

Life is short. It's not always happy and fun. Sometimes its dark, and sad, and confusing. But when you have people who genuinely care, people who have your back no matter what, it makes you see the light at the end of the tunnel; to feel hopeful for the future. If you don't have people who make you feel like that, who you know without question you can call when you are having that breakdown and just sit and cry with them, you might need to reconsider your friendship.

Now, there's no denying that friends who are just there for fun times aren't bad to have. Sometimes it's nice to just have a good time without getting super deep. But in the end, those superficial friendships are not going to be the ones to get you through the hard times or check on you when they know you're not OK. In fact, they probably will be the ones making you upset from time to time.

I am a needy friend. I know that. But I will always give my all to the people I care about. I will always go out of my way to make sure they are happy, that their day gets a little better, to be their shoulder to cry on, or the person to make them laugh until they cry. And knowing your worth and what you have to give is the first step to realizing what you deserve in return.

From my own life experiences, it's the hard times that show people's true colors; when their true feelings and compassionate come out. This past year has shown me that and then some for my friends. For the ones who made me laugh when I was down, who got me a basket of things to put a smile on my face through tragedy, and who simply gave me a hug or a smile when I needed it, who simply asked if I was doing OK ... those are the people I want need in my life.

But I also know that history, even if it's good, doesn't equate to a great friendship. Life teaches you that lesson. I have realized some aren't here for the long haul, and that's OK. Knowing when to distance yourself from someone is completely healthy. I believe everyone comes into your life for a reason, often to teach us something about life or ourselves. I wouldn't know what I need out of life without the people who may have done me wrong or I had a falling out with. They are a part of my story and I wouldn't be the person I am today without them.

Life is too short to waste it on people who don't bring you happiness or make this wild ride worth it. So know your self-worth. Recognize what you deserve. Love the people who matter. Find the people who make you excited to go through this journey with them by your side.

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To My Best Friend Who Taught Me What True Friendship Is, I Can't Thank You Enough

"To the person who will love you endlessly, love her with kindness and understanding."

Dear Best Friend,

You have been a part of my life for quite some time now. You have seen my good, bad, and ugly sides and have stuck by my side through it all. I don't know if I could ever find the words to truly thank you for everything your friendship has given me, but I am definitely going to try.

Our lives have taken some twist and turn these past few years, but we have stayed strong through it all.

Thank you for judging me just the right amount.

Throughout our friendship, I have made some very questionable decisions. A lot of people would say "thanks for never judging me," but I feel like everyone needs a best friend who's going to tell them how it is, to tell them when they are about to make a bad decision or how to avoid something worse from happening. You have always told me how it is (even when I don't always want to hear it), but I know that I can come to you whenever I need someone to set me straight.

You're always down to do nothing with me.

I think that you are the one person that I can call up to hang out and do absolutely nothing with and have a good time. From the nights sitting in and playing card games to ordering Chinese food and watching an entire Netflix series while I dance around with the cat: I know that we could do anything, and nothing together and it would be fun.

But also, you're always down to get lit with me.

I swear one day we will be two old moms at a bar drinking vodka crans and laughing about the stupid shit our husbands and children do. You're always down to go out and have a good time. Even if everyone else we're with is miserable, we find a way to laugh at ourselves.

You are one of the few constant things in my life.

I've lost a lot of friends in my life, but you have stayed by my side through everything. I can't remember the last time we actually fought about anything, but even when we do we can't stay mad at each other for more than a day. I know we will be in each other's lives until we literally keel over.

I want you yo know that you're the strongest person I know.

You've dealt with things that not many people go through ever in their life. You have always been so mature, and you handle everything with grace. You inspire me every day with your goals and successes and I am so proud of you and all of your accomplishments.

Above all else, you deserve the world.

It's so easy to get caught up in your own mind and think that you deserve the things that happen to you, but please know that the only thing you deserve is happiness. Please settle for nothing short of that. It may take a bit to find your happiness, but I will be there every step of the way. You're a remarkable human being, and I want nothing but the best for you.

To the person who will hold your heart someday, please do not break it. To the person who may wrong you, you will regret it forever. To the person who will love you endlessly, love her with kindness and understanding.

You, my best friend, future bridesmaid, godmother of my children, the person to bail me out of jail, the one who lets me cry on their couch for twelve hours,

I love you.

I will cherish our friendship forever. Thank you for being you.

Love always,

Your best friend.

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18 Things You Know To Be True If You Are A Dancer



It's the night before my first dance competition of the season, so of course I'm going to write about dance. Without further ado here are 26 of the most common things you know if like me, you are a dancer.

1. You are constantly choreographing dances in your head.

It doesn't matter what song you are jamming out to, without fail, you find yourself choreographing dances, even at 2:00 AM.

2. You always find a way to practice your solos or dances for competition.

Even if you have a small space to work with, NOTHING, and I mean absolutely nothing will stop you from practicing.

3. You are constantly trying to better your technique.

All day, every day, it doesn't matter if you're working on turn combinations or bettering your tap technique, not a day goes by that you don't work on it.

4. You have a "dance drawer" in your dresser.

Leotards, tights, and booty shorts, oh my!

5. The studio is like your second home and your team is like your second family.

There's really no explanation needed.

6. You feel like you never get enough time in the studio.

Because there's no such thing as "too much dance"

7. Your weekends always consist of a dance private

Literally almost every weekend

8. You're not embarrassed about going out in public while wearing dance clothes.

And you don't care if people look at you funny for wearing your leotard and company jacket to a restaurant.

9. Your company jacket is your jacket of choice.

You've gotta represent your studio, plus it's sooo comfortable.

10. Forget the holidays, competition season is the most wonderful time of the year.

I love competition season so much!

11. You're always losing bobby pins.

Gotta love those sock buns that take you literally 15 minutes to do, and the ridiculous amount of bobby pins that you use just so your bun can stay in tact.

12. You have regular earrings and then you have dance competition earrings.

Those big sparkly earrings are always fun to wear.

13. Your Instagram explore page is full of videos of other dancers.

What can I say, I just love dance.

14. The phrase "I can't, I have dance" is one you say all the time

I apologize to all of my friends and family who I try to make plans with but can't follow through because of dance privates.

15. The same goes for "5, 6, 7, 8"

I am so guilty of this one.

16. People ask you if what you do is like what they watch on "Dance Moms"

And you reply with "Sort of, but not exactly"

17. Sometimes you just randomly strike a dance pose.

For me, it has always been , and always will be an arabesque.

18. Your mom is the best dance mom ever, and you dad is the best dance dad ever.

They honestly are, I couldn't do any of this without my wonderful parents and am so thankful that they continue to support me in doing something that I absolutely love.

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