To My Parents From Your Only Child, Thanks For Bringing Me To Life

To My Parents From Your Only Child, Thanks For Bringing Me To Life

A unique relationship that I could not be more thankful for.
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Dear mom and dad,

Thank you for never putting me in a position of worry, but always being transparent about what happens in our family. It has always allowed me to grow emotionally and become independent. As I have aged, especially in college, my maturing has allowed you two to become more vulnerable with me and allow me to support you emotionally, like you have done for me. Being an only child, we have an extremely special bond.

I grew up with friends that barely, if any, had a relationship with their parents; it confused me. I grew up with friends that were immediately drawn to you both and were willing to share their hearts with you.

Mom, thank you for teaching me the importance of an understanding heart and perseverance. In low points of my life, you have always been my biggest cheerleading to encourage me to never quit. I would have never tried out for dance again without your constant push of encouragement. I would have never made it through the scary beginning of panic attacks freshman year of high school and later, struggling with mental health spring semester of freshman year of college.

I have always confounded in your heart and trust to able to go to you regardless how big or small the situation. You have always said that I am the strongest person you know, but I would be nothing without your example and teachings throughout my life.

Dad, thank you for teaching me the importance of hard work, leadership, and a good laugh. When the going gets tough, you get tougher. You have always been my light in the darkest of tunnels. You never let your struggles define you, and that is an example, that you have set, I have learned the most from.

A raised by a perfectionist, but your mistakes are what you grow from the most in life. You taught me that leading others is not about telling it about doing. And of course, no matter the situation, we can always make light of it by making others laugh and being able to laugh at ourselves (and mom). You are the sunshine in my life and I am forever a daddy's girl. The example that you have set for what a husband, a friend, a father, a leader should be has exceeded any expectation I could ever have. You are the reason I value myself.

Lastly, thank you both for showing me, throughout my life, what a marriage is supposed to be. The amount of love and acceptance that you provide inwraps everyone you encounter. You taught me being with someone, even when working two jobs and living off Ramen Noodles can be the most fun times in your life. No matter what struggles came your way, at the end the day, you both knew that everything was going to be okay. I could not ask for more and you two make me so proud.

I love you both. I am so thankful that you brought me life and you are my parents.

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I'm The Girl Without A 'Friend Group'

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Little things remind me all the time.

For example, I'll be sitting in the lounge with the people on my floor, just talking about how everyone's days went. Someone will turn to someone else and ask something along the lines of, "When are we going to so-and-so's place tonight?" Sometimes it'll even be, "Are you ready to go to so-and-so's place now? Okay, we'll see you later, Taylor!"

It's little things like that, little things that remind me I don't have a "friend group." And it's been like that forever. I don't have the same people to keep me company 24 hours of the day, the same people to do absolutely everything with, and the same people to cling to like glue. I don't have a whole cast of characters to entertain me and care for me and support me. Sometimes, especially when it feels obvious to me, not having a "friend group" makes me feel like a waste of space. If I don't have more friends than I can count, what's the point in trying to make friends at all?

I can tell you that there is a point. As a matter of fact, just because I don't have a close-knit clique doesn't mean I don't have any friends. The friends I have come from all different walks of life, some are from my town back home and some are from across the country. I've known some of my friends for years, and others I've only known for a few months. It doesn't really matter where they come from, though. What matters is that the friends I have all entertain me, care for me, and support me. Just because I'm not in that "friend group" with all of them together doesn't mean that we can't be friends to each other.

Still, I hate avoiding sticking myself in a box, and I'm not afraid to seek out friendships. I've noticed that a lot of the people I see who consider themselves to be in a "friend group" don't really venture outside the pack very often. I've never had a pack to venture outside of, so I don't mind reaching out to new people whenever.

I'm not going to lie, when I hear people talking about all the fun they're going to have with their "friend group" over the weekend, part of me wishes I could be included in something like that. I do sometimes want to have the personality type that allows me to mesh perfectly into a clique. I couldn't tell you what it is about me, but there is some part of me that just happens to function better one-on-one with people.

I hated it all my life up until very recently, and that's because I've finally learned that not having a "friend group" is never going to be the same as not having friends.

SEE ALSO: To The Girls Who Float Between Friend Groups

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It isn't an easy choice but it can be the most rewarding.

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I haven't written for the Odyssey in quite some time due to this large issue in my life that I feel some people may also need to hear. Watching your parents go through a divorce can be difficult in itself, but what about having to remove one of your parents from your life at the same time? It's something I don't think many people could imagine doing. However, sometimes you are forced into the position between choosing what is best for your mental health or what is expected of you. For me, I realized that I needed to put myself first.

I realized that I am my own person. How I present myself and how I act and what I choose to believe in is how the world perceives me. I was faced with a parent who did not let me be who I am. The way I thought had to be in line with theirs. What I openly spoke about had to be in line with that parent's thoughts. This also, in turn, meant I had to revolve how I was perceived to the world around that parent's family. I had to abide by these societal norms and do what someone else expected of me. I realized that was ludicrous.

This parent was also abusive. They were toxic and manipulative and I could not stand idly by and just take that from them while also trying to become an independent young adult. I was forced to sit and watch one of my parents transform into someone I didn't recognize anymore. I had to watch them ignore any kind of reality checks and continue to feign innocence. I watched one of my parents mentally manipulate people I once called family into believing lies. I kept my head down and shut my mouth and kept taking the abuse. Now I'm at a point where I can confidently say that I am no longer afraid.

I was forced to cut ties with a parent that raised me, cared for me, attended school functions, fixed toys, bought me my first phone. I was forced to chuck out priceless memories for my own sanity. I could not sit idly by and allow myself to endure one more second of lies or abuse. I had to stand up for myself for once in my life and I blocked most of my family. I blocked cousins, aunts, uncles, and godparents. I changed my phone number that I had since 6th grade. I gave no warning and disappeared from my family's lives. Do I have regrets? No. I would do it again if I had to because I am so much stronger than sitting there and taking it.

I will have one less parent at my college graduation, which I am fighting so hard to achieve. I will have one less parent at my wedding. My future children will have one less grandparent. I mope in these thoughts but then I have to remember the other side of things. I will not have an unsupportive parent at my graduation and instead will have those that were there every step of the way. I will lack someone who was toxic at my wedding. My future children will never have to face the same abusive, toxic situations that my parent put me through. It was a difficult decision to make but one that I know in my heart is worthwhile.

Cutting a family member out of your life is difficult enough but cutting a parent is unimaginable. However, no one deserves to go through abusive situations. It shouldn't matter who the person is; if someone is treating you less than you deserve to be treated, they have no use being in your life. You should always be your first priority. You should never have to endure something for the sake of others. I am here to tell you that you are more than that and that cutting out a family member could actually be the best thing for you, even if it's incredibly difficult. I did it and I'm still here. It made me realize who my real family was, and there will never be enough thank you's in the world to show my mother just how much I appreciate her.

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