When I was 9-10 years old, my mom sat me down in our living room and told me that she and my father were getting a divorce. I was heartbroken and I didn't understand. I thought everything was perfect and my parent's marriage was going to last forever just like the movies and live happily ever after... but that wasn't the case.

Now that I'm looking back at it at 19 years old, it was probably for the best. I understand it more now that I'm older, but what I don't understand is why divorce is glorified and why some people wish their parents were divorced.

When I was a freshman in high school, one of my best friends (at the time) would always tell me how they wanted their parents to divorce because they wanted to live with one parent and not the other. I was angry. I tried so hard to figure out why they would say something like that, knowing how badly my parent's divorce affected me. I went from having both of parents around 24/7 to one moving out and seeing maybe once every couple of months. I was at the age where I was well aware of what was going on, but I still somehow didn't understand it. The one thing that was so common in society happened to my parents and I haven't been the same since.

What else I didn't understand was why divorce was portrayed so positively in the movies. Sure, some divorces are simple and a kid will have a set schedule of which parent they'll see and when.

But that isn't always the case.

I went from spending holidays with both of my parents to only one. The happy family that I thought I once had was a whole different ballgame behind closed doors.

Our family hasn't been the same since then. The family dinners and watching all of our favorite TV shows no longer exists. We don't celebrate birthday's together. We don't celebrate Thanksgiving, Christmas, or any other holiday together.

I wish things didn't end the way that they did, but now that I'm older, I truly think it was for the best. I will never wish the devastation or heartache that I experienced from my parent's divorce on anyone. Don't tell me that you wish your parents were divorced just because you "like one parent over the other." It's not fair to me to hear that because you think switching back and forth between houses is a luxury that you need.