I've been an avid fan of the NBC show "The Office" for a very long time. I've probably gone through the entire series anywhere between 25-30 times. I absolutely adore this show. I absolutely adore Pam Beesly, as everyone that truly understands the show should as well. So when I read an article stating that Pam Beesly "sucks" I was rather frustrated with the content when the finger is pointed in the wrong direction. I love Jim and Pam's relationship as much as the next person, but Pam is not the reason for their problems, and she kicks ass.

A large portion of this article was based on her early parts of her relationship with Jim when she was engaged to Roy. The ignorance of the true ramifications surrounding her engagement to Roy is where the entire article has a downfall. Roy was a horrendous match for Pam. Roy was literally the epitome of a deadbeat. He treated Pam like she wasn't a priority. Throughout the entire show, he treated her with disrespect and as if she was a clingy one night stand.

I don't know many quality guys that threaten their fiancee to sleep in the car if they don't give him an advantage over the tip-off during an office basketball game. I don't know many quality guys that blatantly say; "Man, I would be all over that if I wasn't dating Pam" directly in front of Pam: the girl he's engaged to, just after a temporary girl in the office walked by.

I don't know any quality guys that don't allow their fiancee to go out and have fun with their friends. That's what most people would call a controlling and abusive relationship. Don't blame Pam for finding the true love she deserved in the comfort of someone else that actually gave a shit about her. Don't blame Pam for finding a way out of a toxic relationship. It was a good thing for her to leave Roy. Notice how she blossomed after she got out of it?

Pam called her wedding off for Jim. She openly admitted it on their beach day when Michael was trying to find out who the most suitable replacement would be for him. This is where we see Pam begin to openly assert herself for the first time. The fact that she called off her wedding to a toxic human being for Jim should give you the highest level of confidence and appreciation for Pam. So why wouldn't she want to go after Jim even if he's dating Karen? Jim was going after her while she was dating Roy? Two wrongs don't make a right, but they make for damn good romance stories.

Another piece that frustrates me that most seem to do when this argument comes about is the comparison between different versions of Pam and Jim throughout their love story. To compare the Pam that was dating Jim, to the Pam that was married with two kids with Jim, is totally unfair and immaculately distasteful. Yes, Jim toughed it out when Pam went to art school, yet Pam didn't want Jim to go to Philly in order to expand his business and leave her behind in Scranton.

Think about the two different situations they were in: Pam went to art school while they both lived in separate places. They had just started dating and Art school was only going to be for a few weeks and it would've expanded all of Pam's opportunities in her career.

Jim started this job in Philly without telling Pam. He also was married and had children with Pam and owned a home in Scranton while paying for an apartment in Philly. It was fiscally, emotionally, and physically difficult and hard on Pam if Jim were to uproot their entire life and move to Philly. Marriage is never easy. But it's even harder when you change every fundamental aspect about it. She had every right to be afraid for the future with her family at stake.

As to the deal with Brian, Pam would never. It's not her fault that he was kind and extended a hand to comfort her when her marriage was going through a rough patch. Do you realize what actually happened in the scene where he convinced the camera crew to turn off the cameras after Jim yelled at her on the phone? Who did Jim remind you of? Have you ever seen Jim yell before? Have you seen Roy yell and get aggressive before? Bingo. There is no way she didn't get some sort of a PTSD episode. Instead of pointing fingers at Pam, maybe you should take a look at Jim.

Pam is a freakin' saint. She gives and gives throughout the entire show, in so many little ways, and even more in big ways. During the final episodes is when it all wraps up to bring together the true harmony of Jim and Pam. When she says something along the lines of: "You bought the house without telling me, so I figured I could sell it without telling you." That's where you'll understand that Jim and Pam's entire story was a tit for tat sequence. Everything about it is. But it's more of Pam giving than taking. Being cautious when it comes to interpreting their relationship, it's important to look at its entirety, rather than just casually glancing at it with a closed mind.