Recently I've been feeling a little mopey about being single. Honestly, I've been asking a lot of why questions. "Why do I have to keep waiting?" "Why does everyone else keep getting their happily ever afters?" And I end up asking: "What about me, God?"

I even told a fellow single friend the other day if one more person told me to keep waiting that I would punch them in the face. Totally kidding, but the people who keep giving me the same advice usually are already married or engaged. Come on. That doesn't make me feel better. It makes me want to shake my head and walk away (even though they truly do mean well, and I appreciate the constant trying encouragement).

But it's true, I have to keep waiting.

I don't want to mope around in my singleness because that's not what God would have me do. I tend to have tunnel vision when looking at a supposed problem.

I remember in high school at times I loved being single more than anything else. I grasped my freedom like a belt around my waist and a smile plastered my face at the fact I could hang with friends every weekend out on the town. Around my junior year, I started the process of waiting for the right one by sporting a true love waits ring and being at peace in choosing to remain without a significant other.

After many, many years of waiting (I'm entering my my fourth and last year of college now), I've allowed the world, my friends and the devil to mess with my mind; I forgot who I was waiting for and the reason why. Life beats you down sometimes and steals your beginner's zeal.

But as I mentioned above, I have been feeling mopey about it all. To combat all the negative thoughts lately, today I decided that I wanted to own my singleness again. I used to find joy in it; I know I can still do that.

So for anyone reading this, you can own whatever position you are in too whether you are married, engaged, single or anything in between.

God has placed us in particular positions for His ministry. By being single, I don't have to split my time between a boyfriend and friends or family. I can talk to whoever I want and travel whenever I want. Owning your singleness isn't sowing your wild oats and embracing all your wild dreams before you settle down, it's about finding yourself when it's just you and only you. It's about being purposeful and useful when you aren't leaning on anyone else. It's about being a lending hand, an open shoulder or a friend to whomever.

Owning your singlehood is explaining to people who don't understand that waiting for the One isn't settling for just anyone; asking God for peace and being content with it takes all you have not to turn your back on Him but trust in His timing; taking your story and sharing it for others to follow; not sharing in the same thoughts as an elder church members that you're the "last one" to get married; rejoicing in this season and praising God that you really aren't alone even though it seems you are; choosing to look at the positives with the negatives keep piling up; holding your head high even when the crown feels like it's slipping and knowing that when you aren't someone's bride in white, you're still the bride of Christ dressed in His purity.

It's all about your mindset. Own whatever season or position you are in and live. Live your life to its absolute fullest.