Why do we hold the burdens of anger and pain? We grab hold of our emotions because we are human. We hold so tight to the depths of our pain because in those moments we can truly be fully human.
Pain is the most incomprehensible and raw emotion one can feel. Why is that? Why does pain do something strange to us, which we feel like we have absolutely no ounce of control over? When our hearts are shattered into a billion pieces, we can’t quite figure out how to cope with such unchartered territory.
But when our souls are bliss, we don’t question it. Why question it? Happiness is what we all aim for, right? So in those moments of authentic happiness, we’re not just content, but we’re exuberant with a great passion for life.
So why then does pain, anger and deep sadness bound us in chains like nothing else can. True heartbreak leaves us crippled and at a loss with our being. It’s normal to feel pain. Like I said, those emotions make us human, and they make life real. Pain allows us to grow because through effort, you can eventually get to the light at the end of the tunnel.
As humans, we will go through countless moments of pain. Sadly, that’s how life works. It’s so important to feel pain when those times occur because in order to hurdle over those burdens we must fully live through it first. When we feel a depth of pain, it means the root of our pain was and is real. Heartbreak represents the significance of what once was or still is a piece of what contributed to our world being bright.
But through that pain, there’s always a piece of us that’s fighting deeply to get back to that place of happiness. We can’t survive if we allow our pain to completely take us over. We have to accept that pain will come, but we also have to realize that, at some point, we have to let it go.
In order to do that, we must forgive.
Forgiveness is for no one else, but for yourself. Many people have this misconception about what the action of forgiveness means. We think that when we forgive someone or something, it’s saying that what occurred was somehow OK. We believe that forgiveness is a sign of weakness and defeat. But truthfully, forgiveness is one of the strongest and most powerful actions we as humans can actually have control over.
Forgiving someone for hurting you, will allow yourself to let go of the pain. It’s never about making someone else feel better for the pain they caused. But by forgiving someone, you are both telling that person and telling yourself, that what they did no longer bares any burden down on you.
Forgiveness is a sign of love. That you love yourself enough, not hold yourself bondage to pain and anger, which is distorting your ability to be fully you and fully happy. It can also be a sign of love toward others. Whether someone wants forgiveness from you or not, you should forgive because God desires us to have a forgiving spirit. Forgiveness represents who we are as human beings and allows us to mature and become individuals who can be strong enough to let pain go and to leave it in the past.
The power of forgiveness allow us eternal peace. It’s healthy to feel pain because forgiveness doesn’t necessarily wipe that pain away. But through forgiveness, we’re able to make room for healing and allow for an internal strength which we never knew we had. Forgiving others can be emotionally and mentally freeing, and most importantly, forgiveness allows love to replace what once was deep pain. It allows us to replenish our hearts, minds and bodies of what once was, what now is and what’s going to be.
