Heartbreak, of any kind, is horrible. Humans are fragile, and when we attach to someone, and that person hurts us, we feel utterly hopeless. All we want to do is move forward from them, and this is my handy guide to help you do that in a week.
Oh, but before I start, I lied. You can't get over a person in just seven days.
We don't like time and we don't want to feel the overwhelming sadness, anger, and influx of emotions that is produced from heartbreak.
However, as much as we dislike it, it takes time and effort to recover. Weeks, months, and even years could be required depending on the circumstance. Here are some tips, however, that can help you feel better about yourself in just a week.
1. Spend time with your friends; don't let yourself be alone.
The worst mistake to make when heartbroken is letting yourself be alone and sad. No matter how introverted or extroverted you may be, spending time alone allows you to be sad and alone with your thoughts and memories; that is not a good thing to do after heartbreak. Spend time with friends, laugh, listen to happy music; keep the distractions rolling, and you won't feel as emotional.
2. Let yourself have one big cry- but don't give yourself any more than that.
Yes, you are going to hurt after heartbreak, and chances are, you're going to cry. The key is to not constantly allow yourself to cry. During my first college breakup, I cried daily for a week and a half, and that only slowed my progress down when it came to moving forward. Let yourself have one bad, big cry to get it all out. Be sure to have chocolates, Netflix, and tissues available.
3. Listen to happy music and AVOID SAD MUSIC AT ALL COSTS.
Happy music instils a sense of happiness in us; feeling happy will keep those bad emotions away from your mind's forefront. Sad music, though more than likely fitting your mood, acts as fuel on a burning fire; it will only worsen and increase the flames. Listen to empowering songs that make you feel good about yourself.
4. Exercise.
As the wise Elle Woods said in Legally Blonde, "Exercise gives you endorphins. Endorphins make you happy. Happy people just don't shoot their husbands." Well, Elle Woods is right. Endorphins do make you happy; they make you feel great about yourself! Go out with your heartbroken self and exercise; you'll get more fit and you'll feel great about yourself. Double win!
5. Avoid contact with your heartbreaker and any revenge schemes.
You are a strong, independent, and awesome person. It is beneath you to try and come up with a revenge scheme meant to hurt your heartbreaker; you are better than that, and stooping down to their level makes you look bad. Additionally, avoid contact with this person, as contact will slow your progress down when it comes to moving forward. Contact with this person can re-open wounds and leave you vulnerable, or even worse, you could make decisions regarding them that you could regret. Cut them out of your life!
6. Avoid getting into a relationship immediately after heartbreak.
I equate getting into a new relationship immediately after a heartbreak to any drunk decision; your judgment is impaired already and the foundation of the new relationship is going to be shakily built. It is best to fly under the radar for a little while after heartbreak so that you can make a clear, conscious decision about your future relationships.
7. Have faith in what is meant to be.
Everything has a purpose in this world; your relationship may not have been meant to be. Have faith in knowing that there is something far greater waiting for you down the road. Do not beg or resist what is- accept it, and wait for the better.
8. Get yourself back out there.
The old saying goes: "When you fall off the horse, you get back up on the saddle." This holds true for heartbreak; if your heart is broken, the best cure is putting yourself back out there.
Something better IS waiting for you, you just need to be receptive enough to get it. Be careful about rushing into relationships. But, enjoy compliments, flirting, and dating all you want. Tinder, or another dating app, is a great way to get a confidence-boost, meet others, and have fun. Putting yourself back out there will help you progress and move forward.
I'm sorry I lied to you at the start, but it isn't possible to fully move on from someone in a week. We need time to heal, rejuvenate, and accept what is.
These tips, however, when practiced correctly, will leave you feeling much better about yourself and the heartbreak in a week's time.
