To some of us, cousins are our first friends. We see them at all the holiday and birthday gatherings, and if we live close enough, we might even see them more often. They are an important part of our lives, and we can both learn from them as well as grow with them. Here’s a letter to my younger girl cousins.

Dear little cousins,

You’re actually not so little anymore. You’re growing up fast, and soon you’ll be in your 20s like me. It’s crazy how time flies. Here’s a little advice I have for you.

One of you already has your license, and you other two are not far behind at all. My main advice for you on driving: Don’t text and drive. It’s not worth crashing your car over. Pull over somewhere safe if you need to use your phone or simply wait until you reach your destination. It’s very possible to look at your phone for one second too long and injure yourself or others.

A second tip on driving for when you’re old enough, do not drink and drive. If you need a ride, call a friend, parent, sibling, or me. I know I’m quite a drive for two of you, but if you call or text me, I’ll figure something out.

Speaking of drinking, you’re around the age when peer pressure may find its way to you. High school and college parties may have alcohol and/or drugs. First of all, don’t do drugs, plain and simple. Secondly, just because everyone else is doing it, does not mean you need to. All you have to do is say no and walk away. If anything else, you can leave the party. You’re not lame or a loser if you choose not to do what everyone else is doing.

It is possible to have fun without alcohol or drugs. Find the right friends, and you’re halfway there. I know this from experience. Some people will tell you otherwise, but you don’t need to drink until you’re at least 21.

In terms of relationships and sex, take your time. You’ll find the right guy when the time comes. Just let it happen, and don’t rush into things. Your friends may have boyfriends, and you might not at the same time, don’t feel bad about it. You’re young and will have plenty of time to date. You’ll find a great guy when the time is right, and he better treat you like the princesses you are.

You’re going to run into rough patches. Everyone has them, and everyone has them at different times for various lengths of time. Don’t hide your feelings. Talk to someone. Talk to your friends, parents, each other. Talk to me.

I want you to know that I’ll always be here for you guys. You can come to me with any problems, and I’ll try my best to comfort you and give you advice. Whether it’s homework help, relationship advice, friend disputes, finding a job or applying to college, etc. I’ll be there. I’m just a phone call or text away.

I love you girls.

Love, Michelle