Dear Unfaithful You,

“Why didn’t you tell me you had a girlfriend?”

“Well, then you wouldn’t have slept with me.”

Yeah, no duh.

What some men don’t realize is when they “forget” to mention the part where they have a girlfriend isn’t just what it does to the person they’re being unfaithful to… it's what it does to us, the other women. Which in fact, I didn’t want to be in the first place.

Let's get one thing straight: I am not a mistress, the “other woman” or anything in between. I am a first priority and a great one at that; this is how I see myself. You made me a mistress without my consent and I’m not cool with that.

Not only were you a complete waste of my time, I’m now having to carry on with the fact that I potentially ruined a relationship. Well, it may be for the best because let's face it, if it wasn’t me… who was it going to be? I’ve come to terms that I’m just the sucker that fell for all of your BS.

Live and learn, that’s all.

Did you even think about the girl you’ve been dating? Despite everything that happened you can look at her without feeling anything? You can tell me that you love her all you want, and beg me to keep my mouth shut, but you don’t love her. You don’t do things like that to people you love.

I am a firm believer that accidents happen and people make mistakes. But let's stop pretending. How many times was it again?

I’m not upset anymore at the fact that I was betrayed by someone I was putting effort in getting to know. I’m not upset that I could have potentially seen something great coming out of it. I’m not upset about being your “play thing” for the moment and for lying about being in a relationship because I’m strong enough to know I’m going to be OK.

I’m upset for her. The person you “love.” What would she say if she found out? Can you picture the way she would look at you or if she would cry? Do you wonder if she would ask you, “Why did you do this to me?” How would you respond to that? Would it break your heart the way you broke hers?

These are things you should have thought about before you made that choice.

I hope that it was all a learning experience, and that there’s happiness in your relationship. But don’t think for one second I want that happiness for you. I want it for her because she didn’t do anything wrong and deserves to be happy. You already know that you don’t deserve someone like her, and if you think you do…you’re wrong.

Now we’ve got a girl in what she thinks is the “best relationship ever” and me, a girl who will probably never trust men again.

I just wanted to thank you for showing me your true colors and making me realize that dating in college is nonexistent if I want a successful relationship.

I hope you’re being better, for her sake. If not? Well, what goes around comes around.

Sincerely,

The Independent Girl Who Doesn’t Need You